Why do more men dislike going to church than women?

Question

Some men say doing church is a sign of weakness?
While most women find church as thier strength.

Answer 1

I think a lot of guys feel uninspired at church. Many feel beat up every week by being told they need to be better fathers, better husbands, better this,better that and the message they hear is that they don't have what it takes; they aren't good enough. They hear God's mad at them and if they don't do this or that they will face His wrath. Sometimes this is said directly while other times it's said subtley.After hearing this week after week many feel, "Why go? What's the point of going - to be beat up?"

I think the church as a whole needs to return to the message of the Gospel which is GRACE not law; acceptance not performance. It's Christ in us and through us; not us for Christ; not us doing our best to try and be acceptable and loved. No! We are loved! We are accepted! Therefore we have a lot to do and somethings to change. But Christ and His love is the message of hope and inspiration.

Answer 2

For one thing, men and women relate to others very differently.

Men relate to others best through "shoulder to shoulder" relationships. This means doing things together, hard, physical, challenging things. In the Christian faith, this looks more like service projects, or leading others. Although you might see some guys go out for coffee together on occasion, they'll usually have a better time playing football or going camping together.

Women, on the other hand, relate best in "face to face" relationships. Two gals grabbing a cup of coffee to talk over is not an uncommon sight at all. They're more wired to relate through sharing their feelings and emotions through conversation.

Church is where we go to connect with God. God created us all in His image, therefore both men and women have certain characteristics that are also true of God. Because church is designed to give us a "face to face" encounter with God, this might make the majority of men uncomfortable. Women, however, will usually find church to be a wonderful experience where they can fully connect with God in a special way.

If you or the men in your church are having trouble with this, I'd recommend setting up some kind of men's service project. Get out and build something for someone in need. Take a men's retreat into the wild. Try connecting with God "shoulder to shoulder".

He desires a relationship with you, and wired you in a very specific way. That's the way He wants to meet with you.

Answer 3

A lot of who goes to church and who does not is based on our levels of education, income, success, confidence, and luxury. It is a luxury to vote, hold property, be truly independent, etc, - all of the things men have always been able to do. It hasn't been until recently that women are beginning to be equal in those things.

Women are less likely to be educated (because we are typically stuck with the burden of raising the children), have much less income, achieve less success, feel more oppression, have to overcome more adversity, and have less confidence because of all of these things. As such, the support and safety-net of the church is a positive to many Women who otherwise would not have access to that.

Men, receiving praise and the best that society has to offer all the time, have less need for additional support from a church community.

Religiosity often has very little to do with faith and more to do with support, community ties, and income.

Answer 4

I read an op ed piece in the paper on this subject not too long ago and will plagiarize freely. Many Christian churches have found a decreased attendance and membership of men in the last twenty plus years. The author, whose name escapes me, argues that some of the underlying tenets of Christianity are more attractive to women than men. Teachings such as God created us just as we are and God does not make mistakes, God loves us unconditionally, and there is nothing we can do to make God stop loving us are more attractive to women, and gay men by the way, than to straight men.

Many men are more moved by sermons such as God winning the ultimate battle between good and evil or God smiting his enemies.

Holy Freudian slip Batman! Pay no attention to the typos.

Answer 5

because if you noticed while in church the pastor on down put men in difficult situations. for example they accuse men of not doing what they supposed to, such as home affairs like if the burden on the world is with men only. women go because the pastor says the right thing that women want to hear. and you know if the pastor say's what they want to hear women are more apt to pay tithes and even give the pastor a little happy ending!

Answer 6

Women go to church looking for men whereas men go to bars looking for women.

Answer 7

The bible says...blessed are you who are conscious of their spiritual need.
Men in general do not like for anyone to tell them what to do. They want to be top dog and in control.

So they make fun instead of admitting they need God in their lives.

Isn't is strange that Jesus was a man and died for all men. He wasn't too good to take direction from his father.

And because of Jesus we all get a chance to live forever but we have to do something to get it..we have to meet with other like believers...pray to God through Jesus and stand firm against the devil.

Only by going and sitting in the congregation can we learn what they right things are.

Answer 8

I find no strength in church....maybe woman are more easily led??? Didn't mean that in a mean way...but woman need more emotion..more thought provoking stimuli...I mean the ways to interpret the bible are endless....
This woman despises what organized religion represents. But I do not despise the players in the game.

Answer 9

Football

Answer 10

I have no idea, but I know I spend a great deal of time in Church, while my neighbors rarely go at all.