Ok, this is kinda hard to explain, but my boyfriend and I have been going out for a few years (4), and I recently discovered that he has a "new" girlfriend without telling me. We share an e-mail address because we have a web site together, and he always tells me to check it to make sure no one has sent us any mail. However, when I checked it last, there was a girl who had e-mailed him and said, "I love you too." When I got mad, I scrolled down to see what he had written to her, it said, "Don't freak out, but I love you". Then, I tried to call him, and when I got his voice mail it had her voice on it. I can't say it is really bothering me THAT much, but I was just woundering how I should handle this situation.
2007-04-05 09:53:39 · 14 answers · asked by Drew 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to dump her, if not leave him, cause once a cheat, always a cheat, and you need to respect yourself, and find someone else , who is faithful.
2007-04-05 10:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Christabelle. It sounds like his feelings for you have changed. And instead of telling you this he has moved on to another girl. If you were married I'd say try to work it out but since you're not and there aren't any kids involved (im assuming) it is really not worth it. I know it suxs b/c you have invested so much time already but better now than later when you're in deep woth kids and a mortage. Why fight for someone who doesn't want to be with you. Yeah it hurts to leave, but it is so not worth it to stay. The distrust is always going to be there between you. Everytime you get mad at him its gonna come up. The fishy thing is WHY WOULD HE GIVE THIS GIRL your SHARED email address? Maybe he wanted to get caught. Some guys sometimes do dumb things to make their girlfriends break up with them because they are too cowardly to do the breaking up themselves.
2007-04-05 10:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by fle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's got to be a part of the puzzle missing somewhere, because you've just said you're not bothered by the fact that your boyfriend of four years is cheating on you, and sharing a phone/voice mail with her. If it doesn't bother you, then there's not a problem. It SHOULD bother you, however, and you should dump him in a heartbeat.
2007-04-05 09:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinks about it...He asked you to check the email for a reason..Knowing you share the same email address. clue #2 her voice on the voice-mail...You guys have been together for 4 years let it go...he isn't worth it if he wasn't man enough to say what was wrong in the beginning so y'all could work it out..Or man enough to say it is over. Come on girl work it out it is always a better man out there. Please believe me.
2007-04-05 10:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by picking better men in your life, move on to stop being a doormat, and end with learning from your mistakes.
This isn't the first time he has cheated on you and if you keep him it won't be the last. Looks like it's too late to dump him as he has already moved on.
2007-04-05 09:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms be particular you're very particular approximately him dishonest on you. you may get prepare so as which you would be able to comfront im with it, do no longer in basic terms think of he's, be particular of it. 11 months is neva too long to stay without intercourse in a relationship. intercourse isn't a manner of exhibiting love as a lot of human beings think of. If a guy loves u, then he could appreciate ur opinion approximately what time to have intercourse
2016-12-20 06:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really bothering you much, huh? Your bf of 4 years is telling some other chick that he loves her and her voice is on his voice mail.
I'll tell ya how to handle it - DUMP HIM.
2007-04-05 09:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by samantha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say it isn't bothering you that much - but it should! Surely you deserve better treatment than having a bf cheat on you? Dump him and find someone better.
2007-04-05 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really only have 2 options. dumb him or stay with him. i can't see how it is not bothering you that another girls voice is on his voicemail. he will keep doing whatever it is you let him do. it is fun for some people to do things to their significant others just because they are dumb enough to accept it. sad but true.
2007-04-05 10:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and find out what is going on. Then tell him it is either her or you and mean it...
2007-04-05 09:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋