my boyfriend cheated with my mothers friend what do i do? should i stay or go?
2007-04-05 09:24:09 · 30 answers · asked by jb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have a 1 yr old together, and its his 3rd time
2007-04-05 09:52:40 · update #1
Leave him so fast his head spins! It's not right to cheat, under any circumstances, and no matter what's going on. And with your mother's friend? I'm guessing then that the lady is older. She's obviously not a true friend of your mothers' or she wouldn't have gotten mixed up with your boyfriend. I think you need to say goodbye to the guy and your mom needs to say goodbye to this so-called friend. If it were my mom she would have kicked her friend's you-know-what!
Good luck!
2007-04-05 09:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda LW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go!! You can no longer trust him at this point regardless of how he tries to justify being unfaithful. It's not worth the effort to remain in a relationship when you have to doubt the other person. The basis of a good relationship is trust. At least you learned about his real character before the relationship when further.
2007-04-05 16:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go. If he cheated this first time, he may cheat again. It is better to be safe and move on now, then to stay and suffer more hurt from this guy.
2007-04-05 16:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes25162 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl!!! You know the answer to that, GO!! any man who cheats on you with your mothers friend is not for you, Find someone who cares about you. LEAVE
2007-04-05 16:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sexylova49 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stay, your an idiot and he has the best of both worlds (loving you and anyone else he chooses at the same time). He strayed once. If you stay with him now, he'll do it again. The trust is gone. Find someone new or be prepared to have it happen again.
2007-04-05 16:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a guy i would hav said, try to forgive him if it was with an other girl ur age cuz as guy we are hardwired to messup time to time.....but he cheated with ur moms friend. Thats low really low.. that means he was so desperate to get some action that he lost his sense of social judgment.... i would say dump that hornball.. u no girl deserves this.....
2007-04-05 16:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by GurU.pK 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. Do it now before you justify his behavior, seems you are young, you will be hurt for alittle while but will survive. If you choose to stay then do not get mad later when he does it again-you asked for it. Remember first time shame on you, second time shame on me.
2007-04-05 16:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by draken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? Has he ever done it before? Will he do it again, or is he really sorry for it? Do you love him? All those things you have to look at when your in a situation like this. I think you should go with your instints, dont stay with him unless you are 100% sure he isnt going to do it again, and make sure he knows its not cool what he did, and that your not going to let him just walk all over you. I think if your not sure if you should end things then tell him you are, and if he trys to stop you tell him you need time to yourself because that was really messed up, and your not just going to forgive him for it, and if he really wants to be with you he has to proving to do. Leave him, and dont call, or anything see how he acts at that point, if he does everything to try, and make it work, and try to get you back then maybe he really is sorry, and cares about you, but once a guy cheats unless they do everything they can to prove it to you that he didnt mean for it to happen, and is really upset over the whole situation they usually end up doing it again. Dont yell at him, or tell him its not enough if he does try because he will ask you what you want him to do, and you cant really answer him on that because there isnt much he can do besides just stick by you, and do everything in his power that he can think of hisself to prove, and reassure you that this really isnt going to happen again. Dont give in easy not unless you want him to think he might be able to get away with it again. You have to make him feel like he just may never get you back to make him realize your serious about how you arent going to put up with that kind of behavior. Its a lot to handle, and it will take time for you to build that trust up in him again, but if he is really trying you'll eventually be able to trust him again, and if you dont think you can handle all of that just let him go, move on to someone you wont have to try so hard to work things out with, but if you hold on in a sense he will be the one trying if he really cares about you.. that make sense to you.. hope things work out for you.. I know how it feels.
2007-04-05 16:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go, Once a cheat , always a cheat.
2007-04-05 16:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking its because you are thinking of staying and you probably will. But it wont change and he will do it again and again. And you wont be able to trust him. So leave if you gather the strength now it easier than later
2007-04-05 16:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋