My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years, and I must say that the honeymoon phase has long passed. Don't get me wrong, we are a great couple in that we spend time together, have positive and/or fun-filled conversations everyday, never argue, and are very much in love. One thing that I have noticed, however is that we have both gotten a bit too comfortable with one another and I want to bring the "heat" back into our relationship. I have talked to him about this, and he agreed with my honeymoon theory and stated that sometimes he feels that we see each other too much. Being completely aware of and sensitive to his feelings, I decided to limit our contact so that we'll only see each other every two to three weeks (building up anticipation). To the male Yahoo! Answers participants: do you think I made a good decision? Would you appreciate it if your girl proposed such an idea? Women: what do you think?
Only mature/serious answers are desired. Thanks!
2007-04-05 09:20:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI: I have no intentions of completely cutting him off--that would just be crazy! Though we are still talking on a daily basis, we're just not seeing each other everyday.
2007-04-05 09:32:09 · update #1
When your boy hints at the fact the two of you have been seeing each other too much, he's clearly asking for a little space. Making a compromise saying you would limit your contact with each other is good, just don't limit it too much.
every 2-3 weeks sounds a bit sketchy. Because it may seem to him you might not want to be with him. Unless of course he agrees to that, then by all means. if you want to limit contact, see each other about 1-2 times a week/bi-weekly. But call or text or IM every now and again, just to keep in touch.
2007-04-05 09:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by sum1_keeps_taking_my_name 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I like this idea. I mean, if you guys do stay together, is this the kind of model you'll want to base your marriage on? Seeing each other every 2-3 weeks to make it more "interesting"?
I reckon you have to work at this relationship as the model and basis for a good marriage, or, if you can't, then call it off. Part of it will be to do with expectations: a real, long-term relationship isn't romantic wildfire all the time, it is about being able to make good decisions together that you both abide by, to build a better future for yourselves and your children (if you want them). It's about giving each other space to be yourselves within your relationship, as well as making sure you spend enough time together.
These things are difficult - more difficult to sort out than just going your seperate ways for a couple of weeks at a time - but they are things that need to be worked through if you want this to work; otherwise you're only going to have to address them at a future date.
Good luck with whatever you decide; I hope you are happy in the future, whatever direction you choose.
2007-04-05 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by The Oracle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should limit yourself however 3 week increments is enough time to have your heart linger somewhere else if you find that the zest isn't there other activities needed to be implemented into the relationship to make it more fulfilling like different settings in dates and so on and the energy in which both of you respond will determine how great it is...through character and laughing...having a zest for life.
Marriage you see doesn't end in periodic breakups its moreso something you have to deal with in spite of the good the bad and the ugly...so if this is so...perhaps this is not the person for you or vice versa...
If this is worth saving however you'll come to find out in time and of course a girl is not ever going to see any obvious wrongs in a relationship...I would talk to him to see his ideas on bringing more "fire" to the relationship before adding a little of my own spiece.
Good Luck
2007-04-05 16:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Diva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two or three weeks is a bit long in between visits. It's really not a good sign when he says you see each other too much. If he'd said something more like "we need to make time for our friends too" or something like that it would be better. Instead of weeks, make it 2-3 days between visits.
2007-04-05 16:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would only like that idea if there were another girl around to take up the slack for me while we were apart. But if my lady made that suggestion to me, I would think that she had another guy hanging around waiting on her.
Not a good idea. Stay together or break it off. There is too much danger in giving the other a little "space" or "time to think" or a little "alone time".
2007-04-05 16:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2-3 weeks is a little long, but I know it will bring some heat back especially if you send him little love notes of what you're going to do to him when you two do see each other again
GOOD LUCK
HAVE FUN
2007-04-05 16:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think 2-3 weeks is a long time...but to me it looks like you really are considering what he wants so you should probally talk to him about the time length...but I think it's ok that you two are able to spend time apart.
2007-04-05 16:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont think 2 or 3 weeks is too long
2007-04-05 16:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
personallly it is not for me. why dont you call each other on the phone and make a date, then go on the date like it is a new relationship.
2007-04-05 17:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks is a bit excessive, but whatever works.
2007-04-05 16:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋