during college. Do you think this is a great idea, or it shows lack of good parenting.
2007-04-05 08:45:52 · 16 answers · asked by NEMESIS 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, you're right they are adults....they do drugs, drink overly too much, have sex with tom, dick and harry and for the most might ends up dead if not careful.
Some might have to bigger picture of achieving greatness and some just learning what life is all about. Those adults like to pretend that they are model students when it comes to parent day...They clean up nicely too.
2007-04-05 09:48:35 · update #1
In college, she's over 18 and can do whatever she wants. Hopefully, I will have done a good job before she was 18 and she'll make good decisions. :)
2007-04-05 08:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly, if you don't "allow" her to, she will find a way to do it anyway and you might risk knowing even less about it then you do now. If you know she is a good kid and can take care of herself in that way, you should show you trust her, that what she knows she can always come to you and trust to talk to you about anything. I had that relationship with my Mom, she wanted to meet the guys I was dating, but she wasn't too nosy where I would want to be sneaky, therefore I could pretty much tell her anything that happened. She is in college too, so that means she is at least 18 or soon will be, so now is the time for her to start dating and have fun, but be responsible about it.
2007-04-05 15:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, once a person is in college, they are stilll a parent's son or daughter but they really aren't a "child" any more. So a parent "allowing" a college age student to date different people in often not an issue- in that it's really none of their business! Sure, parents can have opinions and input, but they truly have very little real life say in the dating practices of adult offspring/
2007-04-05 15:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Again, if she is in college she is over 18 and if she has been taught self-respect then there will be no problem. What your children do when they are not with you does show the type of parenting they received, but then we can be with them 24/7 and can only hope that we have done the right thing and that they will do the right thing.
2007-04-09 08:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once she is 18, she can do as she pleases as far as dating. You can certainly set rules about "overnight guests", staying out all night and such when she is home on break or over the summer. But, what I would do, is have a talk about the difference between dating numerous guys on a fun, casual basis and the realities of multiple sexual partners. This is the time to be sure she not only knows what birth control options are out there and about safe sex, but that she is actually applying them to her life. Even if she has no plans of being sexually active, now is the time to be sure she has condoms and has the option to go on birth control and for her to know that you respect her for being smart enough to use them.
2007-04-05 16:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby is not a teen yet, but I can speak for myself, I dated a lot in college but never had sex until I was married. If she is just looking for the right guy to be in a committed relationship with then let her date. You have to use your judgment. If she is not having sex with them (No disrespect to you) then I say let her go out. How much control do you really have over a college student anyway. Good luck with this and God bless you!
2007-04-05 15:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ama A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was not allowed to date till i was 16 I hated my mother. But now im 24 married and have a daughter and most of the things my mom did not let me do i'm very happy for. Your a mom (wise) you know what she should and should not be doing she will thank you in the long run.
2007-04-05 15:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by unique562h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the person. She's already in college, so let her be. If you deprive her of anything, she can always not tell you what's going on in her life. If you'd rather know what's going on with no judgement and fear on your lack of good parenting or just tell her to NOT do this or that. You can always just give out your advice/opinion. I'm sure she'd respect that.
2007-04-05 16:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Adriana Isabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that point and if she's not living under your roof, all you can do is hope and pray that you did a good job raising her and instilling morals in her so taht she will make the right decisions concerning men. If she's living under your roof, she shouldn't have different men stopping all the time. Not only is that inappropriate behavior for a young lady, it is also dangerous for all of you.
2007-04-05 16:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Keetta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my mind, as long as she is not sleeping with all of those guys she is doing a good thing....dating around (not sleeping with) is a good thing.....you meet lots of people. You can't just settle for the first guy or gal you date....it takes time to find the right one, and a majority of people don't find the right one in the first person they date.....I know its hard to see your baby girl in this pattern, but it life, she is an adult, and like I said, as long as she is not sleeping with every guy she dates its not a bad thing.
2007-04-05 16:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by yetti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋