ever since we took my daughter passafire away?

Question

ever since we took my daughter passafire away she will not go to sleep. should he give it back. what do we do. she 2 1/2.
what do we do she needs sleep.

Answer 1

My son went through the same thing when we took his away. After about a week he finally started sleeping at night fine. But we never did get another nap out of him again. He is 5 now and he had maybe......4 naps in the past 3 years. Good luck, but she will work through it. Hopefully you start getting a good night sleep soon.

Answer 2

It is a very difficult transition! I'd start by taking it away during the day, allowing it only at bedtime. Then, try taking it away after she goes to sleep. That is a challenge, because many kids won't be able to get back to sleep during the night without the pacifier, and you may end up losing some sleep over it when she wakes you up at 2am. Once that's done, you might try to make a "deal" with her... if she'll go to sleep without her pacifier, she can pick a special treat (a small treat). And when all that fails... try try again...

Answer 3

Don't give it back to her, let her know they are for babies and she's not a baby. Then ask if she'd like to have a new friend to sleep with at night. Take her to the store and get her a new stuffed animal or doll to help her feel comforted at night. Thats all the pacifier is, a comfort item. Once she latches onto a new stuffed animal or doll, she'll go to sleep and not think about the pacifier. Mom to 3.

Answer 4

Is she reverting to her fingers or other items while she's sleeping? My son did!

I agree with Vivianne, go slow with this transition. There's alot going on with your daughter.

First, she's still going thru her "Terrific Two's" - a very important and necessary time for a child to establish their first healthy sense of 'independence.' Try to honor and respect a few of your daughter's choices during this growth stage - it will pay off later. This particular developmental stage is also a very good time to "choose your battle's carefully." Try to go for Win-Win solutions, when possible.

Secondly, This can be a 'traumatic loss' emotionally for a child. Her pacifier has 'been there' for her for 2+ years! We adults grab for all sorts of things to relieve our stress, fears, discomforts, etc., and look how very difficult it is for us big people to go Cold-Turkey. Why would and should we expect our children to handle it better?

A slow and gradual weaning during the day is a good first step. Establish a plan you both can live with. Set a 5-10 minute time limit 3 or 4 times a day, for about 1-2 weeks, this is based on your childs needs. Don't limit naptime yet. She gets to choose the other 3 or 4 times, it will vary daily. Proceed to two time's and then once a day. Make sure she succeeds at accomplishing one step before going on to the next. Then succeed at naptime before tackling nitetime - the very last step. This will make it a much healthier and happier transition. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Do not give it back. She needs to get used to going to sleep without it. Read her a story and then tuck her in and turn out the lights. She will eventually sleep. You have to kind of ignore this because the more you pay attention to her fussing for the pacifier the longer she will try to get you to give it back. Just tell her you don't have it any more and put her to bed. It hard on you I know, but she will get over it.

Answer 6

My daughter is 2 and still has one. I think that if she's doing well without it during the day no harm done in letting her have it only at night. There are kids who suck their thumbs till their 12. So if it takes you till shes 3 or 4 to lose her suesue at bedtime what harm is done?

Answer 7

dont give it back

if she doenst have any replace it with a stuffed animal or something along those lines

just leave her be in bed and let her cry it out that's all you can do

maybe after a week without it take her to build a bear where she can make a stuffed animal and tell her it's because she's been without her pacifire for so long and your proud of her

they actually do understand at this age

Answer 8

Maybe she wasn't ready to give it up. Myabe you should wean her from it slowly. Tell her it is just for bed time only and when she is sound asleep pop it outa her mouth and lay it in her bed so she can find it if she wakes up. Eventually move it to her night stand then gradually out her door over the course of a couple of weeks. Eventually she wont go looking for it and will sleep on her own. Remember you got her hooked on it and it isn't fair to expect her to give it up cold turkey.

Answer 9

I took my daughters binkie in the process the day. At night and naps she nonetheless has it. i recognize three people say that she wouldn't have it even though it is not their issue. My daughter sleeps properly with it. or you may desire to discover something that she is interested in and permit her take that to mattress.

Answer 10

No,don't give it back, because if you do, she realizes, if she whines enough to get something back, she wants, she will start using that on all other occasions too.
It's a big transition for her, so take time to put her to bed and stay with her until she sleeps, so she feels safe.