Im thinking if it was me, Id like the gesture, but not sure Id want to look at them, then have to throw them out. I spose it would be the same for a funeral.
I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white? FTD shows some bright colorful bouquets in the sympathy section, which confuses me. Another friend said maybe a plant, but cant decide if that is more of a reminder vs a remembrance. Any thoughts?
2007-04-05 07:54:27 · 13 answers · asked by lillilou 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It depends on the person. Maybe take a card and a meal and just let her know you are there if she needs something. But don't be pushy I lost a baby early in the pregnancy and my mother-in-law said you need to get out of the house she took me to walmart to walk around ,which I really just wanted to be left alone. But I passed a lot of gross stuff while there and had to go back home and change cloth's. Something in remembrance would be nice but if she can't take care of plants, live flowers could upset her more if it dies.
2007-04-05 08:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by MARY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Im thinking if it was me, Id like the gesture, but not sure Id want to look at them, then have to throw them out. I spose it would be the same for a funeral.
I cant decide if I should get some for a friend to show support (in addition to being there of course), then just go with something white?...
2015-08-15 01:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated any sort of arrangements that were sent to me after I miscarried after four months. I threw them all out because I didn't want any sort of reminder. It was hard enough to deal with the sympathy that everyone was trying to give, that I just needed sometome alone. I did appreciate the meals that were made and brought over. I also had a child who was a year, so anytime that someone wanted to spend time with her was great too.
I wouldn't go for the flower idea, it is really to hard to forget. Maybe stick to dinner, a little bit of house work if she is really distraught. Take her for walks, get her out of the house, doing something. Get her to talk about it too. The more she talks about it, hopefully the better she will start feeling.
2007-04-05 09:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by jesterthemutt2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think flowers would be a very nice idea. Not too many colors though - too cheery during a bad time.
Maybe get her a little pine tree or a bush of some kind that she can plant and keep. Not as a reminder of the pain and sadness but of the strength to get through this and for future children.
2007-04-05 08:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can send flowers, or a flowering bush. A tree or something she can plant in memorial of the baby lost is always a kind gesture. She is looking for love and support now, and I doubt that she will be upset that you're trying to help. You're a good friend!
2007-04-05 07:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stephene 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your friends' view of the world. She may see a gift as a form of rememberence and have to "throw it away", she also, could view it as a positive source of rememberence.
I would consider giving her something more everlasting as a commemoration of her lost child. If you have some money I would consider a nice pendant she can wear. Explain to her that you are not trying to give her a keep-sake, necessarily, of a difficult time in her life, but that it is your way of giving her the opportunity to remember this time in her life and focus on all of the wonderful things she could have in her future vs. the negative aspects of something she couldn't control.
That, and maybe a single WHITE rose. I wouldn't go with color.
2007-04-05 08:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by The Peav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the tree or plant is good as a rememberance. Flowers are also appropriate. I dont think your friend will care what it is, just the fact that you are thinking of her is will make it easier. Also I wouldn't go with white- too bland- go with something that has color - give her something that screams with NEW LIFE.
2007-04-05 08:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by BabyLoves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATED the arrangement my wife received after her (our) miscarriage. Couldn't stand to look at it. Maybe take her out to dinner and let her air out what see wants to. BTW, happy to say my wife (three years later) is 18 weeks into a very healthy pregnancy!
2007-04-05 08:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Burpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the color of the flower indicates that it is a sympathy bouquet or not. . . a simple spring mix would be fine. . . a handwritten note inside a card would be anice gesture.
I think its the thought that coutns and its very nice of you to do something kind. :-)
2007-04-05 08:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋