Is it wrong to be a homosexual christian?

Question

My best friend is homosexual and she is a christian, she asked for my support in helping her get over her homosexuality, but then today she told me it is too hard and she can't do it. I don't think she wants to give this life away, but she asked for my help and prayers, what should i do?

If your going to make nasty comments, please don't answer this question.

Thanks, and God Bless!

Answer 1

It is very difficult when you are trying to counsel those who are homosexual on things Biblical. For instance, I once counseled a young homosexual man, he really sought after the Lord, but decided he would rather live his lifestyle than follow God.

I think what is important is to break it down for her. Sexuality is an action. Having sex is an action. If she cannot give up homosexuality for heterosexuality, perhaps she should give up sexuality at all. Being celibate is better than sinning.

Also, as I stated, sex and sexuality are acts, they are not the problem. At the root there is a problem. For instance, many women, though the number escapes me right now, state the reasons for their dislike of men comes from some type of abuse by a male role model in their life, whether it is physical, mental or emotional. You see, sin is never the problem, it is just the outward symbol of what the true problem is in the heart.

Often times with things like sexual sin, whether homosexual or heterosexual, there is a problem with validation of the persons gender. This is often a problem associated with the father figure in the persons life. As a woman it is key to have a strong father figure who shows love and compassion to the girl and the mother, to display what the correct example is. Girls need reassurance from their fathers of their validity as a woman, of their beauty, and of their strength.

As for finding this, I would suggest getting your friend to seek out some counseling for the problems and things that are in her heart. Sometimes those are beyond us as laymen to help fix. Sometimes the problem is buried under so much pain, hurt and resentment that it can take years to get to.

As an encouragement to your friend, let her know that her sexual sin is no different from the sexual sin of a heterosexual. Sex outside of marriage is a sin whether with the same sex or opposite sex.

Try to be an encouragement and a listening ear. Encourage her to turn away from what she is doing and to turn towards God when the strength to overcome the sin seems to be gone. We cannot do it alone, it is only through Christ that we can overcome sin.

Answer 2

According to the bible, yes, yes it is wrong to be a homosexual. Some people would say that there's no such thing as a homosexual christian because homosexuality is a no-no in christianity. But if you think about it, everyone has sinned, so does that make us all non-christians? The bible also says (although I cannot remember the exact verse but I'm sure you're aware of the existence of it) that we have no right to judge other people. Only God can judge us and will judge us. Tell your friend that she has my blessing and that I can understand why it would be hard to get over hr homosexuality. In fact, wouldn't it be absolutely impossible to get over it? I mean, it's not as if you can suppress your true feeling entirely... she can't exactly control it. So long as she truely repents about her sins... this goes for everyone else too.

Answer 3

It is no more wrong for an homosexual to be a Christian than it is for an alcoholic to be a Christian.

The problem is ... homosexuality seems to be something that a person has little control over. They either are or they're not. Still, they do have control over how they deal with it. They can follow and practice the life style or they choose not to. It's a hard choice to make.

What should you do? Pray, like she asked.

Kev

Answer 4

I'd love to know who appointed the people answering this question with the power to say who is and is not a Christian. I guess some are never without a first stone. If the woman is your friend and you care about her, then you need to accept here decision. Try to encourage her to join a more tolerant church. UCC for one. There are a couple of things that I noticed while flipping through these answers: Equating homosexual love to theft, murder, adultery or drug addiction is not only insulting, it's just plain mean spirited and wrong. Why should someone live a lie? She's a lesbian. So what? How Christian is it to lie about who and what you are just so some bigot can feel more comfortable?

Answer 5

You cannot be a homosexual and a Christian at the same time. She did the right thing by asking for your prayers and support to help her get over her homosexual urges. God's disdain for sexual immorality (whether it be hetero or homo) is clearly stated throughout the Bible and apparently your friend know that.

As one other said, it's better to be abstinate than it is to live in sin. Personally, I don't think there is anything about being gay that makes it anymore difficult to avoid immoral sexual acts than it is for a heterosexual. It's a matter of choosing to live according to your faith or living according to worldly desires and desires of the flesh.

Answer 6

There is no such thing as a 'homosexual Christian"

You cannot willingly sin and be a Christian. It doesn't work that way.

We become Christians on God's terms, not ours. He says homosexuality is wrong, so it's wrong.
Refer to 1st Corinthians 6:9 and see for yourself.

and yes your friend does need your prayers.....

Don't pay any attention to all the "thumbs down" I will be receiving. That is from those who want that lifestyle to be ok no matter what God says

If you are a Bible reader and believer, read that passage for yourself

Good luck

Answer 7

IF homosexuality is hurting her, then yes, she should get out of it. God is the way for that, just tell her not to expect the thoughts to go away anytime soon. You are what you are on certain things I find.

If she is trying to conform to an idea that a Christian cannot be homosexual, then she must understand that the come-as-you-are God party is all inclusive to those that trust God for what he promised. That's the Gospel message in a nutshell.

Stop letting Satan beat you over the head, love and trust God, He will work it out with you. OKAY?????

Answer 8

If she has asked for your help, she wants to get out. Respect her decision, and help her as she asked. If she said she can't get out because "it is too hard" that shows me she still wants to escape. Encourage her that although she may not be able to do it herself, God can give her the strength to do it. And you can offer her support.

Many will try to make this a political issue, or try to use it to support their own personal views. Those do not matter in the case of your friend. What matters is what she desires, and she desires to get out. Be a good friend, and help her.

Answer 9

we all have our battles to fight and our crosses to bear.
homosexuality is a battle for some as alcoholism or spousal abuse,etc.... is for others. if we stand against that which is wrong even though at times we may fall eventually we will be victorious in the battle.
I do not wish to make any one upset. so please do not be angry
we all defend what we are doing but when we know that it is wrong and we defend it that is a different story. I would try to help my friend as long as she was fighting for righteousness but if she wont try to stand against it you cant make her. It might come down to except the homosexuality or lose your friend .
that will be your battle as there is only one way to except homosexuality and that is to stand against our Lord.
As for the people that say she was born that way ,I say many of us are born with thing that handicap us like the babys addicted to alcohol and drugs, or children born to homes that abuse them they are more likely to abuse other children, but we don't help them to continue in that way of life we are to help them get out of that way of life if they want out and if they wish to live and grow in that way of life we must make a choice are we going to be a part of that way of life of remove ourselves from it. That is what God our Father will hold us accountable for

Answer 10

I think you should continue to encourage her through the use of scriptures, prayer, and mostly just you telling her you have faith in her that she will overcome it.

She's already made a big step in acknowledging that homosexuality is not acceptable to God. Now that she's done that, she needs to continue to pray to him for forgiveness and to ask him for the strength to go on and get over that habit.

Still, with God’s help, anyone can learn to “abstain from fornication,” which includes homosexual acts, and “get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor.”(1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4) Admittedly, this is not always easy. Nathan, who formerly pursued a homosexual life-style, said: “I thought I could never stop.” But he did change with help from “the spirit of our God.”(1 Corinthians 6:11) As Nathan discovered, no problem is too big for Jehovah, who can provide the strength and help needed to meet His standards and receive His blessings.—Psalm 46:1.