EXTREMELY IMPORTANT!-Is he lying or more like being sincere?

Question

I went out with this guy on a date. (The same guy I had talked about before) We had an amazing time and then ended up sleeping together. he called the next day from work saying if he could call me back. that was last thursday. He actually went about 4 days I think without calling. I was shopping yesterday(tuesday, april 5th) and walked right past the store this guy works at. since i regularly shop there i just decided to try calling him and seeing if i could talk to him about the situtation face to face. i didnt want things to be akward and just wanted to casually date so i wanted to tell him that. he answered was friendly as normal, told me he just started his lunch break(20 minutes) and that he wanted to talk to me if i did. we met up and i told him how i felt (it was too long to call, if he was interested just out of respect to tell me now because i didnt want things to be akward in the store etc) he looked very suprised and said he thought he called me the day after. i told him he

did but that i felt it was too long to go without any type of phone call. he did apologize but didnt really explain why he called. i asked him what he would like or not like just to set the record straight and made him answer first. he said he wanted to date me casually, go out like regular people etc. and then i thought about what i wanted to say for about 5 minutes(he asked me if i needed more time,but i said no) then i said i agreed. so, he walked me to my car, kissed me and hugged me goodbye(he also hugged me when he came to meet me- a geniune like bear-hug). i cant really read his body language because he was holding his drink and burger in one hand but i did take up his entire lunch break(which i feel bad about that) talking to him. i did remind him several times that i appreciate honesty and bluntness and he promised that he would tell me anytime he changed his mind. he said he was booked this week because of the easter holiday throwing off his work schedule but that didnt mean

mean he wouldnt call. he was smiling a lot during the whole conversation and really just let me talk. he also seemed very comfortable not nervous at all and was looking me directly in the eyes whenever we talked. i reminded him that 4-5 days is too long he said hes sorry he agrees and would call like "every couple of days". he told me that he would be at my campus yesterday(wednesday, april 4th) to pick up/visit his friend Eric. I said if he saw me to give me a wave, he said he would most definetly do that. and that was the end of the conversation. im curious to know if you guys think he was being sincere or just being really polite in dumping me. I know its an extremely long story but i truly appreciate everyone that takes the time to respond. :)
REVIEW: i talked to him on tuesday(april 3rd).he was supposed to visit his friend yesterday(wednesday, april 4th- i dont know if he did or not). today is thursday, april 5th. wondering if hes going to call, if so when/when not etc.

CORRECTION: HE DID CALL THE DAY AFTER, HE JUST SAID HE NEEDED TO CALL ME BACK. SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS BUTTTON

HE CALLED ON THURSDAY. 4 DAYS WENT BY AFTER HE SAID HE WAS GOING TO CALL ME BACK.

Answer 1

You don't know him well enough to suspect he's lieing, I'd give him the benifit of the doubt, but I wouldn't call him, let him come to you...if he does, he was sincere, if he doesn't well you have your answer. Men are very weird creatures....It's human nature to want what you can't have, so if your not chasing him when he really wants you to....he'll call you! Be patient and STAY STRONG!
Have a great Easter

Answer 2

WEll, him saying that "he thought he called you" is not a good sign. There is a book called "he's just not that into you". The author is dead on when it comes to knowing if a man really desires you. Believe me, they DO NOT forget whether they called and they don't let 4 days go by after sleeping together if they are truly "into you".

Let it go and just go about your life. Let him pursue you, not the other way around. If he doesn't, well, be thankful now and call it a learning experience. If he does, well, thats great. But still, let him pursue you instead. And no matter what, don't lose your self-worth over it. No man deserves that.

Also, get a great book called "Are you the one for me" by Dr. Barbra De Angelis. It is great!

Answer 3

Okay, sorry, dear, but it sounds as if you are playing a game you can't win. You made a mistake by sleeping with him right away. I'm not being a prude or anything, but that is never a smart thing to do with guys. They need to work for it, that's just how they are wired. I would definitely not invest emotionally in this situation, because it won't go anywhere. And BTW, what's that, sleeping with someone FIRST and THEN deciding to date casually? If you sleep with someone, dating casually isn't possible any more, beautiful girl.

Answer 4

OMG. Why do girls have to make everything so complicated? Not everything is a riddle waiting to be solved. Not every word, every gesture, every blink of an eye needs to be figured out and decoded.

If he didn't call you right away, he's probably not interested. He surely doesn't want to have a State of the Union discussion after only one date. Why so serious all of a sudden? It was ONE DATE! Who cares how well it went... If he calls you, go out with him. If he does not call you, he does not want to go out with you. Why do you want to chase a guy who doesn't want to go out with you? Boys like to chase girls, especially girls they like.... They do NOT like to be chased or pinned down (even if you're only pinning him down to "casual dating").

Answer 5

It sounds to me like he's really not interested. Maybe he doesn't know how to tell you. Men are simple and there is really no excuse for him not calling. You are pushing too hard. Let it go!

Answer 6

Sounds like an honest mistake to me. Guys forget. I would give him another chance, but if he pulls the same trick again, be done with him.

Answer 7

Hmm...it sounds ok for now, I'd give him one more chance and if he still acts wishy washy, I'd say "thanks, but no thanks" and move on...this way you won't have to waste your time or keep "wondering' what's going on. I've learned during the dating game, that if you have to analyze the relationship, then you don't need it...you know?

Answer 8

Don't be so gullible...he is playing you
he thought he called the day after??? does he have so many that he can't keep up?
jeese

Answer 9

He is lying......common how can you not remember is you called someone or not and ya just slept together.

Answer 10

you told him what??????? at the end you never finished