I've known this girl since she was 14 years old. She is now 21 years old. We have sort of been on and off since high school. She went to a different school but we always managed to keep in touch and occasionally hook up. As the years went by she got immense in a couple of relationships and we sort of lost touch for about a year and half. We started to rekindle our friendship/random hookup relationship 5 months ago. We started going to our weekly late night movie and I would try some moves on her. But never admitted I liked her. We began to get very close almost best friend status. She would tell me that she could never date me (blah blah) and tell me about ex boyfriends however I always knew she liked me. She always had a crush on me. However, on my birthday (Last Wednesday) we went to a bar with a couple of friends and she started to flirt with my best friend and she began to speak out the problems she has about me to him (stay at home all the time blah blah) Me and my friend both believed she was flirting with him because she wanted to get me jealous (which didn’t work) If I could briefly explain my personality and some stats for analysis, I’m a very nice and respectful person who always smiles and loves life. I’m not one to harm anyone. I'm a great person to her and she knows it. I'm everything she is looking for in a man. She is a very smart and intelligent who I believed has been hurt too many times in life. Her mother is divorced which I believe she (the girl) may have psychological issues. Her mother absolutely adores me and loves me and always tells her to give me a shot. However, that night when we were drunk, I went to her house. Let's just say things got heated and she admitted for the first time in awhile she really liked me and that she puts up a front around me. It was one of the greatest nights of my life (no sex occurred) but otherwise I enjoyed myself and I began to think this could be the one. This is when it begins to go downhill.
Thursday- I leave her house in good standing around 1 and then I see her again around 5 to give her a cd she wanted.
Friday- I ask her if she would want to come to San Francisco with me this August (as friends). I then proceed to ask her if she wanted to watch a movie tonight and she said she’d be by a friend till 11. She ends up calling me at 1: 30!!! Not mad...Just not like her to do that.
Saturday-Absolutely no contact.
Sunday- texted me around 5: 30, I played an April’s fools joke on her saying I was somewhere with another girl. She spit back to me that she didn’t care!!!
Monday- talked to her for 3 minutes on the phone. She said she would call me back after she took a nap. Never Did.
Now it is Wednesday night and I'm still waiting for her phone call!!!! What could have possibly happen from last Wednesday till now!!!!
My analysis: I believe deep in side of her she really likes me. However, I’m different then her past boyfriends because I’m not going to bow to her always. I believe in a relationship that should be 50/50…. not 75-25. I absolutely positively love this girl. I love everything about her and even how she walks. I just don’t understand how she can ruin a perfectly normal friendship and maybe future boyfriend in the process!!! What should I have done that could have changed this. I really believe she had psychological issues and she can’t be with me because I’m not scumbag!!! I’m a good person.
2007-04-05 07:07:13 · 2 answers · asked by italyazzurre44 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MY LORD MAN!!! Why didn't you start talking to her like you actual love her? Take a trip in August as friends... I pissed at you... then a pratical joke about being with a girl RRRRRR!!!! Stop being a ****, please for her sake!!! ACT LIKE YOU LOVE HER!!! Your on the right track the fact is every good healthy deep fullfilling relationship has a friendship at its very core... but buddy move on to the next step, if it isn't to late... LOVE HER!!!! Tell her my lord she is just not sure how to act with you since you keep talking about friendship.... its more then that lover, now act like, geeze.... trust me I've been here.... and talking like o as friends or even using that world when its obvious that doesn't incompass the relationship is giving her mixed signals.... keep in mind man everyones got insecurities and when were talking about someone we love extremely intensily the insecurities are going to be that strong too... stop waiting on her and grab her up, or let her go.... its 50/50 across the board as an avarage buddy, your going to have places where its 90/10 60/40 and all kinds as you guys began to intergrade... but with this someone needs to give there 100 percent... maybe she'll give it to you, if you just give it to her....
2007-04-05 08:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. I think there's a lot more going on here that needs to be sorted out before getting back into a relationship with this fella, but I do think there's hope. Seems to me that he needs to realize and understand how his friends are ruining your relationship. You need to break it down for him, because most guys are oblivious to how you feel and see things. If he is aware of how devastating and terrible his friends are and he's still living with them and taking their advice about you, then he's not putting you first. He obviously cares about his friends over your relationship, and you don't want to be with someone who does that. You can do better. I think you need to give him some space for another week or so. Then I think you should meet up with him and discuss the issues. DO NOT get back with him if these issues are not resolved, or else hey- you'll be single in another 3 months feeling like you wasted your time. In order for a relationship to progress healthily, the problems you two are having need to be resolved, not swept under the rug. Just give it time, let him have a week to think about everything that's happened and put his life into perspective.
2016-05-17 23:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋