i feel very weak. She started dating another guy soon after we broke up (2days). I love her so much that she is all i know for 3 years. Now everything i do is new. Hanging out with friends feels wierd, playing sports is not the same. Its been a month now and i havent seen her or talked to her. and the funny thing is that she lives right next to me. The fact is that i am trying to move on but everyday it gets worse. I am trying to forget her but this is the most difficult thing. i have had so many injuries in my life but nothing compares to the pain i feel in my heart for this girl. I love this girl folks! i love her. should i... i dunno. what do you think is best for me at this point. contact her or let her be. ladies? any suggestions?
2007-04-05 07:01:19 · 15 answers · asked by Lord_poseidon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you are feeling. The only thing that worked for me was to give it to God to deal with. I had already lost enough weight and sleep over it and could no longer handle the physically stress, much less the emotional. Worry about the things that you have some control over (you) and trust God with the things you have no control over (her).
2007-04-05 07:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going thru this problem myself a lil while back. This is where you have to analyze yourself and her.Now will contacting her now jus open up the wound more than it already is? Because I di this same thing with my ex. I wrote him a letter saying that I still have feelings for him and all that good stuff and what did he do? He told me everything I wanted to hear and then as soon as I thought I was back in....he closed the door right in my face. So maybe you need to sit down and think about weather or not u want to risk more pain......jus a thoguht: Thin b4 u leap.....Ur feelings are counting on it!!
Glad 2 be of help!! Good LUCK
~~*~*~~*~~KIA~~*~*~*~~
2007-04-05 07:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be and work on yourself moving on. I know that it is weird and it will be at first, but keep at it and it will all become normal for you again. It will take a while to get over the broken heart but thats were your friends and all come in. I would start going out more, hanging with your friends...eventually you will wake up one day and feel find about the situation. Get back into the things you like to do, besides the weather is warming up...get out and enjoy it...go to the beach or something.
2007-04-05 07:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the pain you are having to go through. My last relationship ended suddenly, and I was ridiculously in love with him. He did not feel the same. What did I do? Did I show any amount a dignity, and respect his decision? Nope, I cried for weeks, I sent letters, I called and tried to understand why he did not love me back. All it did was cause me more pain because I was so embarrassed. I am still embarrassed about it to this day. There is nothing you can do and it sucks and it hurts so much. It does get better though, I just kept thinking that I will find someone one day that really loves me just as much as I love him. Its not worth it to give someone else all your love if they don't want it.
2007-04-05 07:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by kate220627 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but she was dating him before you broke up. She was cheating on you and you are better off without her. The fact that you feel weak about it means you are not much of a man. If you call her it will just verify what she already knew, that you are pathetic. Grow up and stop acting like a chump, go find someone new and don't look back.
After all, you can bet she sure isn't thinking about you right now, just him.
2007-04-05 07:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh thats so sad.My heart goes out to you.From all the research Ive done on the subject, its seems that the best thing to do is move on and start making your life the best it can be.This works for both of you.If she truly isnt interested your just prolonging the agony by contacting her, but seeing you get on with your life,happily, makes you much more appealing and may make her decide that she gave up a good thing.It's hard, almost impossible at times, but worth it it the end
2007-04-05 07:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's diffucult I know. I just lost a girl who I've loved for 5 years but things just happen y'know. If it was meant to be it wouldv'e been. Soon you'll get used to your new life and I'm sure you'll find someone else who will touch you the same if not more. Keep your head up kid!
2007-04-05 07:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by dynamite_boy619 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey why did u break up in the frist place. Let her be, shes obviously doing what she wants to do. Im sorry that it hurts but it will get better. Start doing things for yourself it will get better, maybe you should meet other girls. If you 2 are meant 2 me u will be, if you were meant 2 be you would have never broke up. good luck
2007-04-05 07:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say let her know how you feel. Don't make it this huge conversation, don't argue. Just tell her if she wants to give it another shot she'll let you know. I know it's hard I just recently got out of a 4 yr. relationship. I too am having a very hard time coping with life after love. You just have to keep on going eventually it will get better. Or so they say.
2007-04-05 07:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her be, yeah it's hard after 3 yrs but she is dating someone 2 days after you two broke up. sounds to me like she probably was already dealing with this dude,hell she is going on with her life. shouldn't you do the same, plenty of pussycats out there man, get at them. ha ha, im playing but seriously don't waste energy on this woman, start over, live your life because it definetely goes on.
2007-04-05 07:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by seay28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋