Well the thing is, my cousin introudced me to this lad and i really like him, we see eachother alot around college and he told me over MSN that he liked me so i told him i felt the same way. (i know alot about him & he knows alot about me) Anyway were meeting eachother in July because he has a free house & we have said that we are going to have sex, the thing is im a virgin and he isnt but i felt dead embarassed by saying i was a virgin so i told him im not. i really want to do this but i am getting embarassed incase i get it wrong, what can i do? I'm 17 by the way and i like him alot so i want to do this. I don't want to tell him that i have lied to him about being a virgin or else he will think he can't trust me. I'm really looking forward to my first time but scared incase i screw it up.
2007-04-05 06:36:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You lied to him already, tell him you lied about it and tell him he'll have to wait for a committment a.k.a marriage.! Sex is not to be taken lightly. You need to understand how precious you are and your body is. If your nervous thats your body saying N-O.
2007-04-05 06:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Tae's Wifey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you both already now each other around college then you both must be in the infatuation stage. I don't understand why July is the date cause you shouldn't hide yourself to any one and if you are a virgin of course you are nervous , this lad if its mutual you always practise safe sex and tel ll him the truth if he is honest gentle and trusting he will help you through it and you will enjoy the act of making love not sex, sex I think is not the way you should head into cause it can cause alot of mental hurt which you do not need at seven-teen . You think alot about this and you will know if its right or wrong at that time. Good luck making love is bettter than sex you will see.
2007-04-05 13:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by missypinkboots 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of the fact that you are still a virgin. You should really love the first person you have sex with. After you have given yourself to someone you can't take it back. Losing your virginity is something you will never forget for as long as you live. You should tell him you are a virgin if you plan on following through with having sex with him so he will be gentle. If you have sex with someone for the first time and they don't know you are a virgin they won't be as gentle and it can be painful that way. I don't think he won't trust you if you tell him the truth. Unless he is a jerk he will completely understand. Sex is something that comes naturally and there really isn't any wrong way to do it. Your body with respond and take the lead, you just need to follow. If you relax your first experience will be enjoyable and a memory that will last a life time.
2007-04-05 13:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by loveystar1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him NOW that you've changed your mind and you want to wait until you're older. Tell him that you are a virgin, and that you still like him, but now is not the right time for you. If he's as great a guy as you think he is, he'll understand. If he's not, you'll find out quickly what he's really like.
And he may have lied about not being a virgin, too.
2007-04-05 13:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear! you are about to throw away a great thing all in the altar of a few minutes of pleasure. Why not forget about it and concentrate on building a solid foundation for a great future that awaits you.
Premarital sex is full of guilt feelings and are you prepared to live with its vagaries?
Think very well before you take this leap. Good luck.
2007-04-05 13:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by The Razor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do anything like that .... save it until you are for sure that he the one... and hold on longer and see if he really loves you and respect you and have no sex for 3 years then he is the one...
But if person pressure to have sex and that when you know that both will not last long... Pls do not do it...
I didn't have sex with no women until i was 23 years old and met my girlfriend and I was Virgian and she not... and we broke up 8 months later.. 5 years later saw her again and we knew that we really in love and got married and 10 years in oct 31st 2007 and 2 kids and third one due soon... next week. so I am happy...
So I wait for it and so I hope you can wait longer before you do anything... smiling..
2007-04-05 13:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest i think you should tell him that your a vigin...it mght be embarassing but it's better for you. If you do tell him it's not like he will like you any less...it'll make him go easy on you and I think it'll make less nervous as e will know how to conduct himself with you. My oppinion is to him know.
Anyway the main thing is just to relax..and maybe communicate so you can feel at ease wth him. Thats why its important to let him know.
Hope things work out for you.
Take care.
2007-04-05 13:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously use a condom you put it on him yourself for him, if not we men have a trick of slipping it off when you least expect it..Especial for girls that are obviously clueless like you.Watch porn and learn some moves from there all-ways helps nothing wrong with that.Your at age and somewhat mature for it now! I f your nervous then don't do it. Good luck! it well hurt to but hell be very happy if you know what i mean.
2007-04-05 13:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are and tell him that you were embarrassed to tell him. Unless he's Hugh Hefner he's probably pretty new to sex as well. No one wants to make anyone's first sex experience bad. So, tell him and go from there. And if you still don't feel up to it closer to the time, tell him then. You only get one first time. Make it a good one.
2007-04-05 13:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow.You'll know what to do once you're there.And next time,you should tell him that you are a virgin.Try reading books and watching movies on the subject,just to help you.Have fun!
2007-04-05 13:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jess P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋