2007-04-05 06:21:27 · 44 answers · asked by Trikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you should dump her, unless you like the idea of her being with another guy. If she cheated on you once, she will cheat on you again. She is thinks you that you are a wimp and not a man, what are you going to do about it?
2007-04-05 06:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two root causes to cheating, at least women:
1. Not valuing the primary relationship
2. Poor self esteem
Quite a lot of women will cheat to find the next guy because they don't want to be alone. So they string the first person along until they find the replacement. Then there are other women who cheat because they have poor self esteem. At one time in their life, they couldn't get men, and now that they can, they don't know how to say no. They crave so much attention.
If your girl falls into the first category, you should definitely go. If she falls into the second category, you have to look at what can be done to make her feel more sure of herself. Poor self esteem is very difficult to eradicate, depending on how far back it goes into her past. In most cases, I would walk away from that as well.
Regardless, her actions have told you that in one way or another, you haven't been meeting her needs (which may be unrealistic so it isn't your fault, but regardless, that is the underlying problem). It is a very difficult situation to change. You can either change her needs (very hard) or change your level of attention (almost as hard.) You are fighting an uphill battle if you stay, and if she isn't willing to talk about it, then it is definitely time to hit the bricks. You can only recover from this if she is willing to communicate with you why she felt something was missing with you and what that thing was. Was this other guy more exciting? More affectionate? More romantic? Her unwilingness to talk about it makes me think you are in category #1 - Mr. Keeping the Seat Warm.
2007-04-05 06:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by industengr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...she's pretending nothing happened huh? Mine did the same kinda thing to me twice. Shame on me huh? Imagine my dissatisfaction really? There won't be a third time for her to consider this kind of option with me again seriously. She's obviously got difficulties being faithful. She did this kind of stuff to her ex husband too! Imagine my surprise huh? I'm truly aware that people can make mistakes folks,....but these are pretty darned serious mistakes. I'm a forgiving type of person...so I can say that bad behavior generally will only be tolerated once...maybe twice. After that?...they reasonably get to go!...and good riddance. You'll have to choose your own decision here though dude...and absolutely let her know that if the tables we're turned...this kinda crap probably would never be tolerated by her. Each onto his or her own...but understand "two wrongs don't make a right!" I'm not a real big fan of or for cheating...period. Usually cheaters will be cheaters forever. It's a sad state of AFFAIRS when people have to lean towards cheating. Too bad they don't have an island where they can dump off all of the liars and cheats reasonably. It would be a hellish kind of a place seriously....but then that's what they deserve anyways! It's probably one of the most single disrespectable things you can do to and against another human being...besides killing them. Forgiveness of one event is up to you partner. Two times and I'd say dump her,...are we cool?
2007-04-05 06:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...I would...but it really depends...how much do you love her? Can you live without her? Even if you decide to stay with her...THINGS WON'T BE THE SAME...even the most secure person will NOT TRUST A CHEATER. She disrespected you and even worse, she didnt have the courage or integrity to admit her mistake! She's just pretending it never happened?? Well, remind her then! hah. I would just move on with your life...make a clean break...your head and heart will feud for awhile...but the pain will lessen with TIME. YOU DESERVE BETTER...she couldn't even stay faithful...what does that say about her feelings for you? She obviously DOESN'T CARE if she cheated and is pretending everything's fine now...I would GET OUT...but if you really do love her...take a BREAK and get some time away from her...decide what you really want...do you want to be on your own for awhile? do you want to date around and test your feelings? that's all you...I would honestly end it again I say...but if you don't wanna be rash...then AT LEAST take a break and re-evaluate the feelings you have and if the relationship is worth it. BEST OF LUCK!
2007-04-05 06:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Optimist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheated? Here is the problem..Do you think she would do it again? I don't know . I think that if she cheated once she would do it again. The thing is that she is acting like nothing happen like if she is not sorry about it. If she was sorry about it i would've told you give her a chance but she is not. There is too many fishes in the see you need someone to love you for who you are and what you are not be with you and the town to.. Get out of her who does she think she is.Did you cheat on her? if you did than you are as bad as she is. That is why she probably did it. but if you did not then set her free..Her lost not yours...
2007-04-05 06:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust can take years to build and a second to break it. She's done that and speaking from experience I have never fully trusted a cheater again. I would make the break no matter how hard it may be. If she is pretending nothing happened then that's also a big sign that she doesn't really care and/or doesn't take your feelings too seriously.
2007-04-05 06:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by vonhartleben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat, and don't let her act like nothing happend!! She cheated on you!! dump her
2007-04-05 06:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump her.... There's no excuse for cheating.. especially if shes acting like nothing happened. Then she obviously doesn't care that much. I would break it off with her and show her, Your better than that and your not going to wast your time with somebody that's not loyal. There's many fish in the sea!!
2007-04-05 06:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by MOMMY1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she confess? Did she truly apologize? do you think she was sincere?
I understand you could be really hurt, and most likely have not forgiven her, which I do not blame you. It takes a long time to build trust, and only a few seconds to break in a thoughtless action.
If she apologized, it is still up to you to take the apology, or say, you are sorry but that is not satisfactory to you. If you do not think you'll be able to forgive, just tell her the truth and Move on, there's no need on sticking around in a relationship that just causes you pain.
Keep in mind, if you believe her and you're still hurt and confused, but still love her, no one is perfect. Give it time, think about it and if you still can't let it go, then there's not time limit, if you wanna leave, it is up to you, it wasn't you who did the betrayal.
Best of luck.
2007-04-05 06:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer to an everyday question.
Get rid of the B#*%! once she did it and you did'nt do anything to turn her around, she'll do it again.. it is no different than when a man does it.
count your losses and move on to the next but this time be sure that she is in to you and not onto any other guy but you.
just don't use the cheater as an excuse when you meet someone else by doing what she did to you.
2007-04-05 06:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by DJenks64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋