I just found out my son's friend has cancer. How do i tell my son?
Please help
2007-04-05 06:21:24 · 13 answers · asked by twisted 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
My son is 12 and his friend is 12 as well.
2007-04-05 06:21:53 · update #1
Although my children are now older, daughter-21 & son-22, I've found that it is best to tell them honestly what is happening. You'd be amazed at how strong and resilient they are. Yes it will be a difficult situation for them, although knowledge and honesty are always best. We've had a few family members diagnosed with cancer, some terminal and some survivors - - when my children were between the ages of 8 - 11 years. Do some research about which cancer the child has - - be prepared with answers or be able to help them look up the answers. My children were sad when the family member passed away and scared and sad when the second family member was diagnosed and survived - - although they handled it pretty well. We didn't lie to them - - we told them all that we knew and helped to find out answers for what we didn't know. Sit with them on their level - - eye to eye, hold their hand, try to be brave yourself and not break down. It they do cry, just hug them and let them know you love them and let them cry - - tears can be healing. You may also want to find out what the parents of the child have told others - - friends, teachers, siblings - - and let that be your guide as well. They may or may not want people knowing right away what is happening. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-04-05 07:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12 he is plenty old enough to understand. Just come out and tell him.
My son, now 5 yr old, had cancer in 2005. our oldest child was 8 1/2. We didn't mince words with her. We told her everything we knew. What type of cancer, his chances of surviving, what treatment would be involved, everything.
2007-04-05 08:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by tessasmomy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got to tell him straight.
Explain what it is and why it is so terrible but show him the positive by saying and showing how many people today are better and leading normal lives with proper medical care. Cancer does not necessarily mean death.
Life is like that. Your son has to face it - unfortunately for him he had to learn this too soon in his young life.
2007-04-05 06:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's dying or he was just diagnosed? Cancer doesn't necessarily mean death. Whether his friend is dying or not, you need to tell him. Then, if possible, let him talk to his friend. Kids are really resilient. Talking to each other will help him understand much better than a protective parent telling him bits and pieces. Kids can be brutally honest. He can ask his friend questions and they aren't afraid to tell the truth.
2007-04-05 06:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him as soon as possible because *if* the friend passes away and your son same to know that you knew all along he'd really hate you.
2007-04-05 06:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dint understand your question... what did you ask your husband to tell his mothers and dads? which you're an India? as for the divorce section, you will possibly desire to have self belief on your husband. do you think of he's this form of a guy who will first marry a woman and make her provide start to his baby and then forget all approximately it and marry somebody else of his mothers and dads' decision? for the sake of protection, shop your husband's landline no. in India. and by ability of how, your mom in regulation is dieing, dont you think of too might desire to bypass and bypass to her?
2016-11-26 20:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by boettcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i found out my mom had cancer i came home from school and i sat down and they said she only had a couple of months i cried but then i realized you know i cant just feel sorry for her i gotta make it worth it to spend time with her and live everyday to the fullest and we did things i would have never thought we wouldve done
so just tell him dont treat his friend any diffrent cuz it makes them feel even worse
2007-04-05 06:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him his friend is very sick and needs your son's support and friendship now more than ever.
2007-04-05 06:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't. his friend may respond to treatment and not die....you don't have a crystal ball. What you tell him is that his friend is sick, with cancer. And then you stress that the friend is in treatment and may get well and may not. NO ONE KNOWS.
2007-04-05 06:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him tht ur friend is ill n he needs u 2 be next to him these days i wish him good luck
n to ur son as well
2007-04-05 06:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Y! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋