I went out with the girls and this happens. There was a group of guys my friends knew and we were all on the dnce floor together. I didn't want to be the odd man out, so I danced. The guy I was dancing with started to show interest in me and I told him I had a boyfriend. He didn't care but I still held my ground. Later that night I was supposed to stay overnight at my girlfriends, so after the club we all were driving to her house, including the group of guys. She was in another vehicle and by the time we got to her house and waited we realized she wasn't coming and had gone home with someone else.My keys and everything were in her apt. so we had to break in. After we broke in my other girlfriend left me alone in my friends apt. with this guy. I was drunk so I couldn't drive home. I tried to keep it real, but he grabbed me and kissed me... and I kissed back. I am so sickened with myself. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't know why I didn't stop. I don't know what to do now
2007-04-05 05:46:23 · 22 answers · asked by smilesbecomesunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stand up, face the music and suffer the consiquences like a good girl. You screwed up. Keep it hidden and it will come out when you least expect it. You think he didn't tell his guy friends what happened? It's only a matter of time before your bf hears about it. Better from you than through a rumor. At least you can control it somewhat.
2007-04-05 05:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk or not you should have still held your ground. The best way to deal with this is talk to your boyfriend over dinner in a public place. It makes things calmer and will give him options on what to do. It may be your last meeting or it may continue. It may sound disapointing, but if the guy cares about you enough and is hurt by this, he may leave you. But theirs always that chance that he will take you back, but a chance of having a protective and jealous boyfriend. so your basically stuck between a rock and a hard spot. I wish you the best of luck, but the only way to clear your concience is to tell him and tell him that your sorry and you don't ever want to hurt him again. Even though you were drunk, he may or may not take that into consideration. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-04-05 12:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Laxbaby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either your friends dont like your bf and want you 2 to break up or they are bad friends. the owner of the apartment shouldn't have left you stranded in the first place and your other friend just left know that there was some kind of attraction and that you where drunk. First i would see what kind of people i hang out with. And then i would tell my bf. You wouldn't like him to do that to you. You really messed up there is no reason you should have been so drunk next time control you alcohol intake and control your hormones.
2007-04-05 12:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it was only a kiss and u were drunk...now if there is no way he will ever find out, it was the first and only time it will happen, u dont hang out with those guys again, and ur more careful of the position u get urself into, dont tell him. it will only hurt him, but if there is any way for him to find out from someone else, tell him right away...and just cause this happened doesnt mean u dont love him, seriously. u made a mistake but that doesnt change how u feel about him.
2007-04-05 13:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by lovenlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self reproach is normal after something like this. First things first, get tested for stds and pregnancy.
When you know the results, I think you should come clean with your boyfriend.
If he is to ever find out from someone other than you, he will be even more devastated.
You may just lose him over this situation. You could've called a cab, why not call your boyfriend?
Next time just don't get drunk. Good luck.
2007-04-05 12:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't go partying and getting drunk unless you trust the people you are with and they will be there to stop you from making a huge mistake but its too late for that i guess.. you put yourself in that situation and the best thing to do is to not lie or hide it. because if your boyfriend finds out on his own.. then he's gonna be even more pissed.. if he loves you, he may have an understanding of the situation and forgive you.. but you may have to earn back some trust
2007-04-05 12:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by mrs.contreras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you sure are easy, next time go somewhere normal. Too late to say to be careful because there are guys who take advantage of drunk dumb girls. Just be lucky he did not kill you. I guess your love for your boyfriend is not that deep. How did you meet him ? the same way ? You need new friends. Live more respectful. Next time you might not be so lucky. The guy sure was, hope he is not HIV+.
2007-04-05 12:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep it on the down low, the guilt will go away after a while... If you love him dont let some little kiss get in the way of something that you love...
2007-04-05 12:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by Magan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you messed up. Tell your bf. He is gonna be hurt either way. And dont talk to this other guy ever again. He's a poison to your relationship.
2007-04-05 12:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if its really bothering you then you should tell your bf include how drunk you were. But this may lead to you and your bf having probs so maybe you shouldn't tell him and never ever do it again.
2007-04-05 12:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by skris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋