my mom is ok with my 17 year old bf staying at my house for 2 weeks but, i haven't talked to my dad yet but, my mom did and she said of course he's not happy with it but, do you think maybe he'll soften up and let him stay for 2 weeks, i mean my mom will be on here vaction to spend time with my bf and i, but we will be alone for a whole week because my parents work at night, but we won't do anything because we are waiting for marrage, but what and how should i talk to my dad?
2007-04-05 05:20:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and he bought a plane ticket and it's non-refundable, so should i just ask my dad myself or ask my grandma and my bf if it's ok if he stay at my grandma's?
2007-04-05 07:42:18 · update #1
I think only if you Dad trust's your bf being around you ..... I don't know your "culture" either, some people don't alow their daughters BF stay in the same house w/them , something you have to respect.
2007-04-05 05:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you told us say:
"I know you may be a little insecure about the fact that my bf is staying here for two weeks, but it will give you a chance to get to know him a little more! Him and I decided a long time ago that we are waiting until marrage, so we won't do anything bad while you guys are gone if that's what your so worried about!?"
Make sure you sound natural when your saying it and everthing should go a-okay!!!
2007-04-05 05:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rosalie Cullen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your actions speak louder than any words you can say. Your father obviously does not approve of you having your bf in your home especially (?) because he is 17. And you perhaps are the same age as he is? Isnt this relationship a bit too early let alone thinking of marriage at a very young age. How old did your parents marry? Maybe that has some bearing on your father's hesitance in your decision. Seeing it his way may help you convince him otherwise.
2007-04-05 05:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by ★Spotter★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a dad i love it when my child is honest with me and really talk things up with me. I have to have confidence and trust before i say yes. I find it ironic that you're mom allowed it, you must be a trustworthy daughter. Dont abuse it and prove to your dad that you are responsible enough to stick to your decision especially its possible consequences. Start by talking to him yourself, not your mom but you. Involve your bf too so that your dad could gauge the sincirity of your man. It take a man to know a man. Goodluck
2007-04-05 05:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by BigBro Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, was it your Dad's job to provide you with a place to have underage sex with someone? I can't understand at all why any father would not want support, care and provide a nice home for a daughter so she can bring a underage male into the home for premarital sex. Do you know that your father is LIBEL for what happens to you and this guy while in his house? Do you really think about what your Dad is Feeling? or just think about what you WANT from him.
Poor Dad.
2007-04-05 05:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by jordan_smith@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That’s a tough one. Just be very honest and act as though you are as responsible as an adult. Start out by saying, “dad, I have something important to discuss with you and I just want you to hear me out…” Or, if you have a really hard time talking to your dad about things like this then just write him a letter explaining yourself FULLY, then slip it in his car so he reads it when he is away from the house and will have time to think about it rather than just saying no right of the bat.
2007-04-05 05:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't happen at my house with my daughter I can tell you that. Your father knows exactly what little horny 17 yr old boys think like. Why does your bf have to stay at your house? Doesn't he have a place to live?
2007-04-05 05:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by 7S282 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that to him. Sit him down and explain what you've just said to us. He should understand, although I do not agree with letting a 17 year old have their bf/gf stay over of vice versa! But, whatever.
2007-04-05 05:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know-there is something with dad's and daughters. if he is going to say no, i would not push it. you are asking a lot of him. you are 17 and i am sure he is going to have your best interest at heart. i dont think its a trust issue with you, but i am sure he is going to have it with your bf. your dad was once 17 and i am sure he remembers what he would have done at that age being alone at night with a girl. dont push him. he is going to want the best for you and allowing your bf to stay i dont think is in your best interest.
2007-04-05 05:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to stop being your friend and be your mom. I would not condone my daughter's bf spending one night under our roof, much less two weeks. Your dad has the right idea.
2007-04-05 05:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋