OK so i don't believe in god!?

Question

when i have kids i want them to belive in god... why im not sure but i do...i dont want to go to church with them because i think it is wrong and would be lying to everyone.... when they ask me why i dont go to church with them do i tell them that i dont believe in god? ...they might stop believing if they now that i dont... or what do i tell them when they ask....

Answer 1

Just give them the basics...as they get older...let them attend different churches with you or a relative....let them see all the different views....when they are ready they will choose one or none and be like you. Either way dont sensor them because of your beliefs..let them have some different points of view..yours as well. You don't have to be so blatent about your not believing in God..tone it down a bit and as they get older you can explain more and more as to why you don't believe.

Answer 2

You want them to believe in God because it gives them a good moral center. You could prolly call around to some churches and work out a car pool but since they are your kids I would at least go and check out the church your self they are all very different - you don't have to believe in it to go there. Just make sure they are teaching something good and not all that fire and brimstone that a lot of churches do. As far as what to do if they ask you just be a mom and tell them that when they are old enough they can make the decision not to go but for now it is your decision... and if you do go you wouldn't be lieing to everyone you would be looking out for your kids best interest and making sure that that church is what is best for them. You are entitled to your beliefs and it is good that you are willing to expose your kids to different beliefs to let them make their own decision later on in life.

Answer 3

I am not a psychologist, and I certainly don't agree with those who say that all atheists "deep down" actually believe in God.
I think that is a really silly statement to make.
However, in your case, I can't help thinking that you must have a basic belief in God, that you prefer not to recognize. Otherwise, why would you want your kids to believe?
"Would you be a hypocrite accompanying your kids to church? I don't think so. I was never into sports, but I when my kids got involved, I accompanied them to their games whenever I could, cheered for them, etc. Sports interested me because it was interesting to them.
I have sat through the odd movie I didn't really enjoy, and didn't feel like I was being a hypocrite.
I have attended services of certain religions with which I am in total disagreement, simply to learn. I haven't felt like a hypocrite.
I think if you want your kids to go to church for a certain period of time, it would be quite honest for you to go. If someone asked you a question about your belief, you could simply say, in a friendly way, "No, I'm not really a believer at this time, but I want my children to be exposed to this, and I am accompanying them whenever I can". Most churchgoers should respect that.
You seem like a person with a fairly open mind. If you do attend, you will have the choice of:
just letting your mind wander and not listening,
or listening and thinking up all your reasons for disagreeing,
or listening and asking yourself if there is any truth that you should consider. Or, at least think a bout what makes people believe what they do, simply in order to improve your understanding of who others think.

Answer 4

First understand your situation:

Your body is made up of 3 elements: Body, Soul and Spirit

Body: this is your natural body; the one and the only one you have.

Soul: This is you. The person that makes the decisions that feels, that touchs, talks and so on

Spirit: This is the breath of life God gave you so that you can live

You have a free will so you choose to belive in God or not
yet the Spirit wich is Holy (for it comes form God) allways calls for the presence of God.

This is why even though you don't belive in God you want your children to belive in Him anyway. so it's not wrong for you to want your children to go to church even though you don't belive in God.

When your Children ask why you don't go to church here is what you should tell them:

well before you answear them you must teach them not to judge anyone by their appearance, the way they look, the way they dress and so on.

Tell them that you have your reasons and that the only thing they can do is pray for you.

best wishes.

Answer 5

Well as far as believing in James 2:19-20 satan believes but its not a matter of belief but BE-LIVING, as far as chuch goes lets see what The Second member of The Godhead says Jesus Christ in The book of Acts 2 the last verse says Jesus added daily to the church as such as should be saved, even satan tells us something about that in Rev. 12:17 And the dragon was wroth with the woman, and went to make war with the remnant of her seed, which keep the commandments of God, and have the testimony of Jesus Christ.
in Rev.19:10 the testimony of Jesus Christ is the spirit of prophecy and the church is the one that keeps ALL ten of the commandments and the reason that is important is because you live in a world that has total death rate, and Jesus is your and your kids ONLY Exit, find out more free bible [Basis Instructions Before Leaving Earth b i b l e] lessons www.amazingfacts.org OR www.itiswritten.com talk to me also [e-mail] God bless and i hope you tell them THE TRUTH and not to take the bible out of context as its there only Way out as well

Answer 6

I feel a similar way. I don't have strong religious beliefs, but I feel like religion can be an important part of someone's life, and I want my children to be able to believe in god if they want to.
Even though you don't believe in god, you can still bring your children to church or teach them about many different religions so that they can make up their own mind. If they choose not to believe in God, like you, it's their choice. If they choose a certain religion, that's their choice also. Whatever you do, be open with them about your own beliefs and allow them to keep their minds open about different religions and what they can believe.

Answer 7

It is impossible to not believe in God with your mind. You can only do it with your heart. You are just afraid of one of three things:
1. That if you submit to God that you will be like people you know that are Christians that you don't respect

-If thats the case, Submit and be one of the true Christians. The problem with most is they forget that "the greatest of these is love".

2. If you submit to God, you become a mindless Jello.

-If thats the case, you only see and hear the Christian people without information blabbing away like they know something. I am challenged by stuff in the bible all the time, but we must remember that the bible was written in Hebrew and Greek so although you must read it, you must read it carefully with plenty of help. There are so many resources from brilliant people out there that have studied the language.

3. You want to live life your way.

-If thats the case, come on, your way stinks. Gods way is perfect. Do you want peace, purpose, freedom, a challenge the size of Texas, or do you want control of your own life.

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Answer 8

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU’RE COMING FROM! I do believe in God and I understand why you want your children to believe too and why you want them to go to church. I think church and God gives people a sense of hope and belonging… and religion is a perfect way to install that into your children. As for you I think you may have had it at one point and lost your faith, but you want your children to experience that joy. And doing so would allow your children to experience life with God and life not believing in him, and it gives them the opportunity to choose which one they want. Vs. a parent who does not believe in God and forces their children not to believe as well. Giving choices is actually very godly; Free Will another quality that God has. It’s easy to understand.

And Christians or people who believe in God do not "pity!" other people. The whole point of the Christian religion is to become more Christ like or Godly and pity does not fall under merciful and forgiving and loving. Gosh, it made me upset to read some of those comments, but I hope my answer helped.

Answer 9

This question is an indication that your feelings about God are not as sure as you think they are. God will walk with you in your life even if you don't walk with Him. You are saying that you don't want your children to be as confused as you seem to be. Watch for "coincidences" in your life that may be little miracles as He pulls closer to your heart. This is particularly true if you were brought up in a church and wandered away. If you open a dialog with Him (PRAY) your life may not become perfect, but you will be flooded with the strength and peace you need. God bless you...he's closer than you think!

Answer 10

If you truely want them to believe you can not tell them that you don't until they are older. You could send them to church with a friend of yours that attends or contact someone in the church and tell them you situation. Believe me, they will be very receptive to helping someone get kids to church. Can't promise that they won't try and get you to come as well though.