Why Did He Keep Asking Me Why?

Question

My BF & I got into a big fight because he said that love is not his focus right now. I understand that he is trying 2 take care of his brother and himself & better his living situation he said that comes first & that I'm too needy & I'm hindering what he's trying 2 do.

I was devastated because I'm in his corner more so than anybody right now, I love him dearly & there will never be another man 4 me. I told him that I wanted him to know that I will always love him & that I was always true. I told him I wanted him to know that about me & always remember that about me. He kept asking me why would I say something like that & I told him that I just wanted him to know & he kept asking me y, he said there had to be a y behind it & I kept telling I just wanted him to know.

I kept telling him that I felt when it comes down to it I know he won't want to be with me in the long run & I that I couldn't stand 2 c him with another woman. Y did he keep thinking there was something more 2 it

Answer 1

Because there is... trust me, subconcious is more wise then the concious most of the time... what it is, is that you want to know why! Hehe funny how it works sometimes... ether way your dealing with a completly unfair situation were this guy had NO RIGHT to reach out for you... talking about he doesn't what love to get in the way... BS!!! Love is always there and if he sees it as getting in the way, then honey, you got a man there that doesn't love you... sorry, and on top of that he has no right stringing you on like this. Love gives us strength and him actting like this seems more like he was using you for the ego bust that sex offers. I'm sorry to say it that way but if he loved you all the way, this wouldn't happen.... and besides that seems he doesn't even trust you with what you say to him... like he might have some deepseeded resentment towards his own concept of love.... theres no real telling, your putting yourself against wall here because he won't change unless you let him go... its just a matter of course people don't change unless they have to and if he loves you letting him go and seeing if he comes back is the best test... just don't get to hurt at the results...