Why are so many guys...?

Question

...totally revolted by the things I wanna do to myself! NO, not like that! Lolz...I mean like, I wanna dye my hair a bright colour and get many piercings..but asking around on here and it is only the minority who seem to like that kinda thing..To change one's looks though..isn't that often a way to attract the opposite sex, like more something for them rather than yourself? Of course partly it will be for me..but I maybe shouldn't change my hair or anything at all...It doesn't seem to be a good idea...People also seem to judge others because of what they look like, assuming people to be emo if they have dyed black hair and a side fringe..assuming people to be goth if they have piercings..? Are there any guys who actually like the kinda things I like or should I just stay the ugly plain jane I am who has never been loved..? Hmm..Or just shoot myself like I've wanted to for so long...? Haha...I'm broken! Who has the power to heal me..? People only ever seem to want to destroy me!

Answer 1

Hey girl, sounds like someone done you wrong eh! I know, it hurts! But you need to love yourself and all that you are and don't settle for someone that doesn't get it. I know, I've just been hurt recently too, but grieve what you have to grieve and don't let anyone else take too much of you in the process...they aren't worth it in the long run and there will be someone that 'gets' you. Until then, there is someone who loves you unconditionally, piercings and all, and his name is God..He loves you and created you to be the unique person that you are and His desire is that you be blessed in your relationships, so wait for the best and fill your life with wonderful friends and interesting things to do in the meantime. Take care

Answer 2

If we could see you that would be where most would have to start. Some are natural beauties no matter what You think you look like..big, small, tall, short, fat or skinny...to attract the opposite sex you should want to be nice and sweet and kind and fun and funny, Not weird looking...really..people will judge you more harshly and stereotype you by doing those things your speaking of...and all that crap you want to do to yourself is just for you and will prob only attact the wrong kind of guys anyway, unless thats the kind you want to attract..
maybe look in some magazines to get some ideas what the average all American girl looks like and wears and all and what the guys like to look AT by seeing what the popular girls are wearing...the more natural the better ..
actually a little makeup applied correctly and a cute hairdoo will do wonders for a different look...a makeover so to speak is maybe what you are looking for ..maybe check out places that do this or articles in mags that show some makeovers, etc
Dont shoot yourself, then we can't see the new you..send pics to us...before and after...

Answer 3

Ask yourself why you really want to do this. Is it because you want to or is it a cry for help. At the end of the day there is nothing at all wrong with expressing yourself and thats everybodies rights. All I will say to you is this is a more unique following of people and there is certainly nothing wrong with a PLAIN JANE as you put it. True beauty comes from within and that is what will truly attract people not your exterior. I would never judge a person by their appearance. Regardless of what you do true love is awaiting out there for you.
So Remain positive and let no one put you down especially yourself. You have obviously been meeting the wrong people.

Good luck

Jonny

Answer 4

Hi Steel! Just because some people around you disapprove your decision of having a makeover doesn't mean you should end your life. You owe your life to the Higher Power and not some imperfect people like you. In the end, they have their own insecurities and problems to deal than focus their life on you. I'm pretty sure that there will be some guy who will appreciate and may even find piercing and tattooes sexy. Learning to carry your look in every occasion also helps. When you feel cool and confident, it will just come out in your aura.

Answer 5

Well if u make any of those do it for u...I know how it is to wanna get a man's attention...but somehow I don't thing dying ur hair black & getting alot of piercings will make a guy like u unless ur attracted to those type of guys I guess?? Honey don't ever think about taking ur own life...things can't be that bad.

I just know when I see a white person like that with dyed black hair, tatoos & piercings I think to myself OMG..look at them...& I do think that they r gothic. That's just how people percieve them to be!

Answer 6

Dying your hair wild colours and getting piercings doesn't mean you will be unattractive to men, you will just be MORE attractive to a different kind of guy! Like attracts like with things like that. I want to get my eyebrow pierced which a lot of people would think "Oh, why did she ruin her face?" or "She'd be pretty if it wasn't for that piercing" - but my boyfriend is the kind of guy who thinks piercings can be hot on girls if they're the right piercing for their face. BE YOURSELF - that way when a guy likes you, you know it's YOU he likes you for!

Answer 7

i ought to unload him asap. If he likes yet another lady and she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? authentic love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, it really is dedicated and labor. you ought to work out this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you ought to not also be thinking a intense courting that is going to reason you lack of self assurance. have exciting, do not grow to be overly invested in this, WHAT? you won't be able to flirt? flow on, the writing is on the wall and it spells difficulty. Do your self a choose and shrink the guy loose, even if it really is destined to be, it is going to run it really is route and he will be decrease back. yet why you ought to take him decrease back merely you are able to answer.

Answer 8

All the guys you've mentioned must be rather shallow to avoid you for what you look like. It's your personality that really counts, not what color your hair is or how many holes you have various places on your body. I say hold out for a hero.

Answer 9

you shouldn't try to impress people.
i think you should dress how you feel.
not what people might think of it.
just stay the ugly plain jane.
then only you'll know who will fall for you for who you are.
that's sincere love.
outshine your personality.
everything is not about the looks darling.
guys might seem they like superficial girls.
but get tired of their stupidity one fine day.
only then they start searching for people who they can communicate with, have fun with.

cheers.

Answer 10

there are other ways to change yourself and get attention, start working out, or playing guitar or something. Plus change for yourself, not for others. If you really want to change yourself or your life, check out Christianity. Once you start living your life for someone else than your problems seem to make themselves go away. dont knock it before you try it.