My BF & I have been seeing each other for 10 & now he's saying he doesn't know if he can handle a relationship because he wants to get his life in order first. He doesn't like where he lives or where he works so he's trying to get out of those situations, plus he said I'm too emotional 4 him. I know the only reason I'm so emotional is because he talks to other women on the phone all the time. They call his phone. He claims he doesn't call them but he calls them all the time & at unappropriate hours. He says to me what difference does it make if he just talks to them. He said I worry too much about him sleeping with other women, he said he isn't but if he was what difference would that make & how would it have any relevance to how he feels about me. I love him so much but I know I can't handle the other women. Why do men feel the need to talk to so many different women, y can't he be happy with just me the way I'm happy with just him?
2007-04-05 03:18:55 · 19 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doesnt sound like he has a whole lot of respect for you. I think you should leave this selfish person and let him work on his life without you. I hope all the women he talks to on the phone are enough for him when he is alone. Selfish dude!
2007-04-05 03:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My man said the same thing to me but if he was a real man, he would say i want you their by my side the whole way. My man and I moved and we both started new jobs a month ago. Now, about the girl part and calling all the time. I say talk with him about. I had the same problem and he realize who his friends were and they needed to call at a reasonable time. I knew what them girls were trying to do and he confessed of what they were trying to do and from that point on i answer his phone when their is no number in his phone that I don't recognize
2007-04-05 10:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that your boyfriend knows the difference between talking to a bunch of women and flirting with them at all hours of the night. You have a right to be concerned about what he is doing, he needs to know that it is not appropriate to be talking to a girl when he needs to be spending time with you, you need to step up to the plate and tell him that you want him quit talking to so many women at one time , he is alright for him to have a few women for friends but nothing more then that. You and your boyfriend can work it out, it does not seem that it is going over the edge, but don't wait until things get really bad to want to do something about it.
2007-04-05 10:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for the brutal honesty here, but he's not into you. I know it hurts but you are better off moving on than waiting for a man who is disrespectful to you and does not care about your feelings. He'll likely keep you around for as long as you're willing to give up the booty because it's all he wants from you.
He's basically already told you that in a roundabout way, but you are just not understanding his Man Talk. He sounds like he's trying to let you down easy. Just get out of there. He is not the last man on earth.
2007-04-06 13:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is cheating, girl let me tell you something im going through now. My boyfriend and i have been together or over 2 years, and he told me that nonsense about he needs to get settled first, im also too emotional for him too. So many girls would call his phone all the time but he would tell me it's nothing. Well he lied to me about him just wanting to get his life in order, he told me that to cover up for his cheating! He was cheating on me with many different women!
Don't buy that mess from him, there is other fish in the sea!
Good Luck!
2007-04-05 10:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel darling. I've been through the same situation with my ex, and that was unbearable...
That thing was driving me crazy, and I begun under-estimating myself, I begun developing a low self-esteem and cried all the time.
When I talked to him about that he said that they call him for business... friends..etc.
I asked him to STOP those calls or otherwise I would break up with him.
He stopped them for some time and he got back to them again.
Finally I broke up, and now though I'm single I DO feel much better than being with him.
At least I don't feel anxious, and I have regained my self-confidence.
So darling, better talk to him once for all!
If you feel bad, that's because of him and it's not your fault.
If he is a jerk, he doesn't really deserve you!
If he decides to stay with you he should ONCE FOR ALL GIVE UP those calls, otherwise... better find a better man who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
He will be the one who will regret loosing you!
Make it clear to him, and first of all think about yourself then about the others...
Good luck!
2007-04-05 10:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think he loves you but he is not in love with you. 10 years Wow! I'm sorry to tell you but it's time to move on. Don't waist anymore time with this jerk. It's true you love him but you'll get over him. Start going out and have fun. You will eventually find a man that really loves you and appreciates you. Another thing is that you might catch a STD Decease from him from sleeping with so many other woman. Be smart about it and leave right away. Good luck.
2007-04-05 10:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by High on Life!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry honey.
trust is always the main issue in many relationships.
first of all. you'll have to make effort to learn to trust him.
how you going to do that? you'll have to figure out yourself.
maybe you not trusting him all the time is really pissing him off.
trust me on that. experience has taught me ALOT.
however don't let him rip on you just because you've learnt your lesson.
this means tell him it's not right for him to say things like "what difference would it make?".
tell him this relationship means to you more than anything.
but listen to his side of feelings.
if he really has lost interest in you.
you can't do anything else but to move ahead.
maybe if he really wants to take a break for a while, fine.
release himself from all the tension.
if he's willing to continue with the relationship, tell him that you've done your part on learning to trust him.
he too has to try to understand and respect your feelings by cutting down on the phone calls with women.
learn to compromise.
only then your relationship will work out.
best of luck!
2007-04-05 10:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for some brutal honesty here...
If he's calling other women, doesn't care about how you feel about him talking to other women, wants to sleep with other women and has TOLD you that in a roundabout way, complains about you and says he wants to call it all off - he's just not that interested in you anymore.
He sounds like a ******** to be honest if he's talking to you like that, get rid and find someone who wants YOU, not just "a girlfriend".
BTW - 10 what? Weeks? Months? Years??
2007-04-05 10:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya hun
I wish my wife had the same feelings as you, I'm a One woman guy but she needed to play the chase game and have sexy texts with numerous men before she finally told me it was over on valentines day of all days.And that was after 16 years together, So simply I do not know and its not just confined to guys doing it.
Just be wary and await the bombshell to drop.
Good luck
jonny
2007-04-05 11:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋