Saying no and holding his hands down doesn't seem to work. Any other thoughts, suggestions?
2007-04-05 02:54:38 · 15 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Some of your answers are hilarious but no, I won't hit him back. Also, he doesn't seem to be at an age where timeout works.
2007-04-05 03:00:53 · update #1
My daughter is 18 months old, and we have gone thru the smacking phase already. The only thing that worked was paying no attention to her whatsover when she did it. If I was holding her and she smacked me, I put her down. If she was sitting in a shopping cart and smacked me, I'd push her to a safe spot and walk a few steps away. The rejection they feel when you are so obviously ignoring them, is what worked for us.
My daughter is EXTREMELY stubborn, so hitting her back would piss her off, and time outs are a joke at their ages. Not acknowledging what their doing AT ALL, is by far the worst feeling. So be overly happy when they do something right, and simply put them down or walk away when they do something wrong. Works like a charm :) GOOD LUCK!!
2007-04-05 03:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Queenelizabeth79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did when my girls went through their hitting phase at that age.
When they would hit, I would say "hitting hurts. Nice touches only." Then I would take their hand and have them gently pat my face or whatever they hit. The second time, I'd repeat hitting hurts and either put them on the floor if they were on my lap or get up and sit somewhere else if I was on the floor with them.
It only took a few times of doing this before they got it. Usually, when they are that small, they just hate being away from you.
2007-04-05 10:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by CCTCC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no in a firm manner, tell him that it isn't acceptable/nice.
He won't understand the words, but will sense your meaning. Whatever you do, don't hit him back. That will only encourage him.
Think of him like a puppy at this point. He's exploring his world, this is something baby's do. You need to calmly, non violently correct his behavior and praise it when he does good things. Above all kids want attention. They will get it one way or the other, they don't care if it's negative or positive attention. Do positive things with him, you will get positive results.
2007-04-05 10:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by I Like Stories 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it just takes time. I had this problem with my daughter. I tried holding her hand and saying no. I tried "no hit". I tried time outs (that got longer, and longer, and longer). I finally resorted to a swat on the butt. I tried yelling (not too loud, of course) "owie" when she hit to show her it can hurt someone. That worked temporarily. I tried each of them for a while. It was the only real "problem behavior" she had. She hit for almost a year! I was just about at my wit's end, and she just stopped all of a sudden. No problems since.
2007-04-05 10:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 months is hard for them to comprehend. (not being dumb, just their brain isnt ready yet)
Your best option is keep saying no very firmy when he does it, tell him that is naughty and be firm. And keep doing this, he will eventually get it. He is to young to put in timeouts, hitting back is just stupid dont do that, and yelling accomplishes nothing.
your best bet is keep doing what you are doing, it will take a while, I had the same problem with my daughter, she eventually stop or outgrew it. Most little ones go threw it testing their limits
2007-04-05 10:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by PaintedWings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's up to you what discipline to use (either a little smack on the hand, time-out, a toy taken away from him etc), but the important thing is to make sure it is the same punishment each and every time. He'll learn eventually what a smack to mummy's face will cost him.
2007-04-05 09:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by esmall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What i do for my 18 month old son is sternly tell him not to hit and he can tell by the look on my face and sound of my voice that it is not something he should be doing.
2007-04-05 09:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in hitin a child but if u have try everythg else i would have to say tat a soft slap on the bum willnt hurt but will show him tat ur not playin.
2007-04-05 10:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
paddle him-ask him nicely to stop that you don't hit people it isn't nice and if he does it again paddle him till his butt bleeds (j/k!) that way if everytime he sits he remembers what his butt hurts soo bad!
2007-04-05 10:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by heater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out. FIRMLY saying "NO!!! That hurts mommy/daddy"
2007-04-05 09:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋