I had to learn on my own about life and relationships. My choices in men have not been great. Fellas what is that you guys want from a woman. Ladies if you know the secrets feel free to share. I keep searching for love in all the wrong places. I feel like I am a good woman, but I have been told that I am too nice. Does men like women to treat them like crap. If they do that is not in my nature. I treat people the way I want to be treated. It seems that the worse you treat a man the better he treats you though. I don't know. I am confused. Please help.
2007-04-05 02:52:05 · 28 answers · asked by kwaniar513 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are probably finding your dad over and over and are trying to re-write the past with a different ending. If men are not treating you right it is because you don't treat yourself right and are picking men that will play that role for you.
Stop having relationships until you have dealt with the past and find out who you are, what YOU want from a relationship and a man. Trying to be who they want you to be is insincere and impossible as later on down the road you will be resentful as they are not acting the way you think they should be acting and you are so good to them so why do they treat you like crap? Because you are not real and don't know who you are. Focus on yourself for now and worry about a relationship later.
Good luck.
2007-04-05 02:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I love you too...as a person and human being...not an object ...I think you understand what this means by now from your personal experiences..
but what I'd suggst you do is to ask yourself a lot of questions about what you are really looking for to fill a void in your life? Is it really a person, a man that will complete you in some way..not possible bc you are searching for happiness and Love that cannot ever be found in another person..ever. It LOVE, has to be found inside yourself first. get to know yourself and what you really want for yourself to make you feel complete...it may take a long time, but in the meantime...In a man friend, you want in a nice, honest, truthful, caring, kind, compassionate, funny person, etc,..to talk to and share with, etc...and to treat you as you want to be treated and you will treat him. go v e r y s l o o o w
Today is the first day of the rest of your good life..time is on your side for sure..be patient..
2007-04-05 10:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by simon07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever say that you feel like a good woman, you are a good woman. I had to learn the hard way about the relationships to no one talked to me about that either. The secret is yourself just be a woman. Serve him well but don't make him think that your his slave or some push over. You sound like a really nice woman and I wish you the best in your search. If you want to talk on the flip side of things, Brymicwilliams@yahoo.com. Talk to me on a personal note.
2007-04-05 10:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give up, sometimes we have to kiss a lot of FROGS UNTIL WE MEET OUR PRINCE!
But, there is something to, being toooo...nice and tooo...accomodating, it does seem that, women whom treat they're man, NOT SO NICE, end up with some of the best guys, but....
You must understand how this works: OPPOSITES DOES ATTRACT, saddly though, many times, the attractions are between two , (what I call), COMPATIBLE CRIPPLES. Yeah..you heard right, that's what most relationships are these days and therefore don't survive.
My recomendation would be: quit surching, as a start, find, either, a hobby, sport, or best of all, a CHURCH. If you find another person, believing same as you, THAT WILL BE YOU'RE BEST BET, OF FINDING YOU'RE MATE AND WITH GODS BLESSING.
What better way than to believe in HIM, to connect you with the right one. I WAS IN THE SAME SHOES and after two abusive marriages, found him through God and will, God willing, celebrate my SILVER ANYVERSARY , IN LESS THAN ONE YEAR!
God bless you and pray to him, for you're unbelieve and he'll be there. BELIEVE!
2007-04-05 10:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to sound like an jerk but that's the problem with most of you girls now a day, you purposely date the biggest ***-hole, lying, and cheating guys just cause their a bit hotter than the nice guy who will treat you and appreciate you for who you are not what you look like. Sure the nice isn't that good looking or is in the greatest shape, but at the end of the day who's gonna be there to make you feel good? Who's gonna listen to you're problems and take them seriously? Who's going to be there crying with you, never giving up on you, there till the end for you and only you?
2007-04-05 10:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dspizz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing is to find a man who is going to treat you with respect. If the men you've been with treat you better when you treat them worse, then that is dysfunctional. If you both communicate your feelings and respect each other, then you shouldn't have to worry about keeping him.
2007-04-05 09:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The number one thing you could do is give a man space. Now don't misunderstand me, you want to treat him well, just don't ask constantly where the relationship is headed, don't always go out of your way for him. I guess what i'm saying is create a little mystery. After all people want what they can't have!
2007-04-05 09:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no secret formula for keeping a man. On the average, statistics show that there are 10 women to a man population wise. Keep being yourself. Sadly it is a hit/miss situation. You may be lucky yet.
2007-04-05 10:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always be their for him. Comfort him. laugh with him play with him, do exciting things. and your right not all guys want their gal to treat them like crap but their are some good guys out their. Don't stress out the day will come. One thing i will say, don't be looking for Mr. Right in the club.
2007-04-05 10:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yours is the same problem with mine, im a guy , whats with women ? hey anyway not everyman is like that ,,treat a man well without losing your self respect, man or women we both have feelings right ? doesnt mean i have to go and treat every women bad
2007-04-05 09:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋