recently my boyfriend asked me to marry him i said yes how do i approch that to my parents im only 18 years old but i want to get married. help how do i do it.
2007-04-05 02:49:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, its "my boyfriend and I".... Secondly... and I know that as a teenager you don't want to hear this, but take it from someone who has been your age. WAIT. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait for you. Go to college, get a job, THEN, go to premarriage counseling.... and get married.
2007-04-05 03:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by tlcbaotou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you have thought this through? Although you may seem so in love right now, young marriages don't always go as planned...neither do many marriages, actually. Things could go wrong out of stress or disorganisation in a mere month or so. Perhaps you need a few more years to gain a bit more maturity; your outlook on life could change drastically you know. Love fades away, and younger people such as yourself may tend to have different expectations over an older couple.
Although of course if you are sure that this is what you want to do, sit your parents down with you and your bf with them. Tell them the scenario and how much you love your bf and he loves you, and that you want a future with him. Make them see how confident you are about the relationship, and everything should be ok. The main thing is, is that it's your choice. Even if they are against it, if it is what you are sure you want to do then go for it! Just remember that if things do go wrong, of course marriage can be undone but it isn't always easy..Well, good luck!
2007-04-05 09:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and keep an open mind. In other words, don't have any expectations...don't EXPECT your folks to freik out, because they may. They may not as well. More than likely since you are 18, they won't give you too hard a time for fear of pushing you into it. My suggestion is to go to dinner with them and tell them when all four of you are together. Just say "Mom, Dad, I have some very exciting news I wanted to share with you first" and pop your sweet little hand up there and show the ring. You're in a public restaurant so even i they take it badly they can't yell. Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
2007-04-05 09:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by AuntTater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and say it. It's not like you will be doing it tomorrow. Just let them know ,if they start talking negative, that you are 18 and old enough to make your own decisions. Make sure it is the right decision though. You are only 18 and have barely started life. I got married at 19 at I know it was the right decision, but you want to talk about having to work at something! It's tough but I love being married!!!!! Good luck!!
2007-04-05 10:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 so legally you are considered to be an adult..If you are wanting to get married that is a very adult decision to make.If you want to get into something as serious as marriage you should be adult enough to come right out and just tell your parents I mean seriously if you can't tell your parents then you clearly are not ready for a serious committment such as marriage..Good Luck..
2007-04-05 09:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Legally you can get married without permission. Right down a list of all the reason you want to get married now and why then show it to your parents. tell them you love them and need their support and want them to be happy for you.
2007-04-05 10:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally, the man ASKS the parents of a young girl for her hand in marriage... it's not supposed to be up to you.
course, this is 2007, and people don't seem to follow tradition... but i think it should be up to the boyfriend, anyway.
if he doesn't ask, i guess you just ask your parents for a time when you can talk, sit down and discuss it... it's not that difficult, is it?
hon, if you aren't old enough to approach your parents with serious issues, and you can't communicate with them, how are you going to approach your future husband with serious issues and communicate with him?
communication is KEY to every relationship. without good communication skills, relationships are doomed. don't be afraid to TALK WITH others about your feelings and your life plan. it's YOUR life, live it!
hugz
2007-04-05 09:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is my suggestion dont merry him, because u cant evaluate any person in short little time, first spend some enough time and know abt him.
ur age is only 18 so u are also not so old to take this kind of decision. it may be u r right that he is a gud choice for u but really take some more time to take this decision.
2007-04-05 09:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Gaurav 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them straight out. You are an adult and able to make your own decisions. You can't do everything your parents want you to forever.
2007-04-05 09:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, i'm 34 and facing the same dilemma!!!
first, you and your boyfriend may want to get a "game plan"...meaning when you sit down with your folks, be prepared to answer questions such as how y'all are going to support yourselves, what you are going to do about school (college), where y'all are planning on living, things like that...believe me, your parents are going to be upset at first, but if you show them you are responsible enough to think every little detail through first, it may calm them down...
Good Luck, hunny!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 09:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by ddking37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋