My friend is a good girl and also a virgin.She's 30 yrs old with a good job and very kind hearted.Well she met this guy 6 months ago and he seemed to be a pretty nice guy.Well she told him she was a virgin up front and he said cool.Now he only calls her once a week,and when she asked if she could go out with him and meet some of his friends he said no.She asked me what's the problem.I called him and he said she makes more than him and child support is eating him up.But they laid all this on the table from the start.I've only been in 2 serious relationships in my life 1 for 12 yrs and the other for 5yrs and I'm 31.So I don't know what to tell her.It sounds like he likes her but do you think he's stringing her along so he can be her 1st?Any ideas?She said she knew about his finicial burden and it's cool,because he's a really nice guy.Should she move on or stay?
2007-04-05 02:45:08 · 20 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should not stay. I'm sorry, but it sounds like she could do so much better then just "a nice guy".
2007-04-05 02:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chenielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. By nature they say that man are egoistic.money might really be a big concern over that and that makes him act that way. on the other hand, id ont think virginity is the issue here.. its not who the first guy is.. what matters most who ends up the Last guy to be with her forever right. Issues about money and other stuff should be discussed in both parties. each of them should make each other feel secure if thats how much your girlfriend like that guy right. Just be open and talk about it. If the guy is still giving too much reasons i guess she jsut have to give it time ... think about it....
2007-04-05 09:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its realy hard to say... some peaple are leech's and well ( to be frank ) losers... thay cant help it sometimes it can come from genetics... thay need to work much harder to beat it i guess
if she realy realy likes the guy she can take him who knows he might change
but be careful it can drag her into a debt too a deep debt.. one of my real life friends got like 200.000kr in debt, and he aint exactly a social person..
but then again he might be an ok guy who just had some bad luck in he's life
its realy hard to say...
as for her Virginity thats realy up to her. if he is only out for that he's not worth it.. im 25 and a virgon still i want it to be real when i find a girl... until i find the right one. its gonna stay hugs and kiss's and nothing more lol :)..
anyhow back to topic.. if she go's for it be realy to catch her if it go's wrong or she'll drop like a stone off a mountain top..
but if it go's right great for her :)..
2007-04-05 09:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by impkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're trying to be protective of the friend you love so much, but you'll have to let the two of them figure this out for themselves.
Maybe he's a little hesitant to get deeply involved with a girl who comes with her own personal body guard. It's up to her when and with who she loses her virginity with, whether the guy is "real" or not.
I wouldn't call him on her behalf anymore, if I were you. If she's smart enough to keep herself intact all this time (no pun intended), she can figure this out for herself too.
2007-04-05 09:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are not comfortable with a woman being more secure financially than they are. I doubt he is trying to be her first if he is paying child support to someone else. I think she should move on unless this guy is her world. Girls like your friend don't need to get mixed up with guys that can't afford to pay for the kids they have made. Also sex means more to her then it does to him.
2007-04-05 09:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he is busy with his own personal problems right now.
1. Tell your friend to talk to him. If they both feel the same way about each other and want to further their relationship they can come up with a compromise.
2. If he is interested in your friend but just currently busy with his personal problems I would think he would want to get them straight first, then give your friend the full attention she deserves.
3. Ask her to think about if he is worth waiting on. If she says no tell her to move on.
Overall they should contact each other and work something out.
2007-04-05 09:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by kickstatus101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's interested in someone else. He's taking care of more than just the ex and child support. I'd advise her to move on and not wait for him to come around.
2007-04-05 09:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes complicating things way too much. She sounds like a caring thoughtful person. He sounds like a wierdo to me...If I were she, I would broaden my horizons and meet other guys....There must be someone out there besides this guy!! What possible reason would there be for her not to meet his friends? That sounds strange to me!!! Move on!!!
2007-04-05 09:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 years old, a virgin, a decent job, [ so she works] and waiting for this constipated child paying ,crying,creep? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I would of killed for a woman like that! Do you know how RARE that is? I found my Princess, Jasmine so I am taken. But if I wasn't, I would of loved to have someone like that. Yet, I LOVE MY BEAUTIFUL INDIAN PRINCESS. Tell your friend to drop that loser like a bad habit and find someone else!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 09:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like your friend should wait on God. If she has never had sex that is wonderful. I wish i would have waited. It is so dear but a man will wait and wait to see if she will give it up. I think he is embarrassed that he is not getting it so he does not want to hang out with her and Friends. You know men have that ego thing to protect
2007-04-05 09:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by peachy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋