A friend at the end of her 1st trimester just had one. Hope to stop by today with flowers, but is that too soon - she did say she would be resting.
Anyone else who's been thru one or friend who has, that could give some advice would be appreciated.
2007-04-05 02:27:09 · 8 answers · asked by lillilou 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
All you really can do is let her know you are there for her. Bring her the flowers, give her a hug, offer to clean her house or make dinner for her. I've had a couple friends who have had them, including myself, and one friend who lost her baby at 8 months. Just knowing that someone else cares and is willing to help you means alot.
2007-04-05 02:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that is so hard on the parents it happens to. Don't be surprised if she is angry, depressed, stressed, and/or not herself for a while. What she probably needs is a friend to be there for her when she needs, a shoulder to cry on, someone to make a dinner-- I don't think flowers will help the situation. Be what she needs and give her a call, see if there is anything you can do. If she says no, then take that as a no.
What your friend needs for sure is time, healing and prayer. A good friend will stand by and help ease the pain, through the good times and the bad. You seem like a good friend :)
2007-04-05 02:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kavasa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a horrible and dfficult situation for everybody concerned. It really depends how close you are. I would say if you're very close friends then drop by, give her her flowers and a big hug and let her know you are there for her when she's ready. I wouldn't stay too long. If you're not very close friends maybe just a card in the post to say you're thinking of her or send some flowers but I probably wouldn't visit her just yet. Really hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-04-05 02:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by maria b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage in November of 2008 and it strengthen into my first one. on the time, i did not desire to talk approximately it yet found out that it in common terms made issues worse. the ideal element to do is in basic terms be there along with her. If she cries, permit her cry and permit her communicate and teach her which you're there to pay attention. additionally, it strengthen into somewhat useful to open as much as my husband and communicate approximately it, he strengthen into amazingly comforting. If it truly is her first, tell her that that's thoroughly standard (everywhere from 30-60% of girls persons have miscarriage as some evaluate their existence) and that there strengthen right into a rationalization for the miscarriage and so that's extra appropriate that it happened early. The few situations I did open as much as people, all of them had a narrative of their very own miscarriage or somebody they have been on the factor of (yet generally themselves) so that's trouble-free. additionally, she will start up attempting lower back after her next standard era. I waited one extra 2 months so i strengthen into mentally waiting lower back yet she would not could desire to if she would not desire to. And now i'm 9 weeks pregnant (due Nov. twenty seventh). I asked for an early ultrasound (at 8 wks), which the surgeon agreed to and each little thing strengthen into ideal so tell her to maintain her hopes up because of the fact she will probably get pregnant lower back and function a healthful chuffed infant!!!!
2016-10-02 05:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the flowers, nothing you bring or say can make her feel better right now. Just let her know that you are there for her when ever she needs you.
2007-04-05 02:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by tulie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had 3 and i wouldn't bring her flowers, just maybe drop by to tell her that you are sorry and are there for her if she needs you i wouldn't stay long unless she actslike she wants to talk. do not say -you can try again, it wasn't God's will, it wasn't meant to be, there must have been something wrong so it is probably for the best, at least you weren't very far along.
2007-04-05 08:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by carly sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some time and lots of encouragement. When I lost my first pregnancy, I was convinced it was entirely my fault and I was a horrible excuss of a woman. maybe bring over her favorite food and just sit and listen if she needs to talk.
2007-04-05 02:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short, and you will be fine in time.
2007-04-05 02:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋