Her boyfriend and her have only been an item for a few days, but she's been friends with him since school started in the fall. He is sexually active and she is not. She plans to wait until her wedding night. He has told her he will not ask her to do anything with him, and he respects her for waiting. He also said he would ask her if it's okay if he gives her a kiss, before he does. I just wonder what anyone else would tell their 15 year old daughter on this subject.
I'm not for it or against it, that's where I stand right now.
2007-04-04 23:42:05 · 15 answers · asked by ♥Tawnya♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has talked to me about it, so obviously it's not "weird" as the 15 year old said. We have a close relationship and can talk, I'm sorry you don't have that with your Mom. To the ones who say tell her to concentrate on school, that would just be shutting her out, when she wants to talk about something I plan to be there for her. And um... no, she has not had sex yet. Sick of you to even think, must be a pervert and I'm sorry that's where your mind is at. To those who think, tell her to do what I was doing at 15...NOT! She is a good girl, I wasn't so much.
2007-04-04 23:54:23 · update #1
You should be very proud of your daughter for being the confident young woman she is who is not afraid to stick to the values you taught her and is willing to share with you her teenage experiences.
A kiss could be a peck on the cheek, one on the lips or (i doubt it will be this one) the full monty with tongues. She'll go at her own pace and its sounds though her boyfriend will respect her choices and still wants to be with her. Very important.
I dont think you have anything to worry about. Let her discover at her own pace and I am sure she will keep you informed. Can I ask if you are in the UK? I thought teenagers like your daughter didnt exist here anymore!
2007-04-04 23:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 15 I am not sure it is a mothers business if she kisses her boyfriend or not. However, it is great that she talks to you. I would not give her any uunsolicited advice unless she asks you. I suppose if you were having a conversation about it you could tell her that she should never do anything that she feels uncomfortable about - that you know she is mature enough to work out whether she wants to or not and how to deal with it if she does. I think by showing her that you respect her decisions and trust her it will keep the lines of communication open and give her the sense that she is able to handle what life throws her.
If you give her your opinion and it is not what she wants to hear or she does what she feels like anyhow then she will be reluctant to talk to you about it knowing you would disagree with what she has done.
I think keeping the communication lines open is a huge thing with teenagers. Unless what she is doing is illegal or harmful to herself or others allow her the opportunity to make some life choices that will build her confidence in making decisions which are best for her.
2007-04-04 23:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Olivereindeer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are people who simply drift along, searching for somewhere they belong to in this world. Looking for a place to call their own, they want to know where they stand in life. Years go by, but the answers might still be unknown to them, even til their very last breath on their deathbeds. Maybe that's what this journey called life is all about.
But living life is never a waste. When we have somebody to love and something to hope for, we learn to embrace the true beauty of life. Cherish every moment of your life because once it's gone, it will never come back. Sometimes you miss it so badly that it hurts inside.
2007-04-04 23:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that's totally up to her, rite? unless your gonna be on there dates 24/7. I mean, they've only been dating a few days now you say, so Sims like she's not in a hurry just yet but if the guy respects her wishes about her waiting for her wedding day then i think she's going to make the rite choice in giving him her first kiss and nothing more.
2007-04-04 23:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wai 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. She's fifteen she does not comprehend the risks of the placement, she went right into a room with an grownup guy who became below the impression of alcohol, she became flirting with older men and at the same time because it could have looked danger loose to her it might have been worry-free for certainly one of them to take benefit of her. If this expedition has something to do with the karate or a experience i'd have the two your self or somebody you believe pass together with her, or she no longer pass in any respect.
2016-12-20 06:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her make the choices, part of growing up is being able to make the right choices for yourself, and if your daughter thinks its okay for her to kiss, then supporting her natural, but safe behavior is better than letting her get upset or what not and do other things. Also, its good that you have great communication with your daughter, COMMUNICATION is key when a teenager is growing up, but its better to be an understanding parent with guidelines and teaching her principals, then an understanding mother that just lets her kids wing it.
keep up the good work.
2007-04-04 23:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok well I'm the same age as your daughter so consider this insider-advice.
I wouldn't say ANYTHING! It will make things really..weird and just make her uncomfortable, you know she's not goign to do anything she shouldn't, so why worry??
Just leave her to go and have fun with her friends and boyfriend,
2007-04-04 23:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that a kiss is very special, as is sex. We should give them only if it truly feels right.
2007-04-04 23:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is normal attraction with another sex during this age,
we cant say it is love.
we advised that not think about kissss or sex at this time, this is time for your carrier, so think about it.
if you go for 1st kiss then it is divert your way from your carrier of both of your.
and also slowly u r going ahead from kiss to sex enjoy....
even though it is advice to give a kiss is depending on your wheel power and she confident that they r not go ahead in this way......
it is only my view...
diffrent circumstances and family situation may be differ from me..
OK ..
b!! ........
2007-04-04 23:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by SHETH 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray to the Lord Jesus for wisdom,if not a christian,then,ask a christian counselor as they would be sure to have the wisdom of God according to His word the bible!
2007-04-04 23:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Wellll... hello then! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋