I am pretty much having an on-off battle with low self-esteem and self-hatred as i have been teased about my looks. Sometimes, when i get so down, i scratch myself and i say things such as being proud of my scars, say lowly things about myself such as i;m ugly and fat and also cry and be angry about it. I sometimes blame my parents for handing me down such awful genes and i ask God why did He make me like this. But after that, i feel really sorry and i mean REALLY, SINCERELY sorry and ashamed of what i've done and said and i feel sorta guilty and bad. But i cant seem to get rid of my negative half and i pray to God that i'm sorry and stuff. Do you think he'll understand? Sincere answers only please. Thnks.
2007-04-04 23:33:04 · 9 answers · asked by Clemence 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God is intelligent God. He know and understand everything that human could not understand. Have faith in God. Do not doubt His power over us.
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2007-04-04 23:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by what I've read about God in the Bible, he'll understand but, he'll expect you to fix yourself. You're braking one of the ten commandments by blaming your parents for having an ugly offspring. Also, "...your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit..." Remember? So I don't think God likes you grafitiing all over it or insulting his handy work. (cutting and angsting about your ugliness.)
Maybe you should thank god for giving you a fully functioning body and mind instead of complaining to him about how you look. Perhaps next time you get the urge to do those things you should think about all of the things that are NOT wrong with you. If you do that then you can be really sorry instead of just feeling "sorta guilty and bad" about it.
When people are SINCERELY sorry about something, they never do it again, EVER. Being sincere is NOT about how you feel at the time, it's about being true to those feelings until you DIE.
(And another thing: If you're fat then that's not your God's fault. Unless you aren't capable of walking and feeding yourself, that's your responsibility and your responsibility alone.)
2007-04-05 00:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will God understand? My dear, God is aware of your challenges, and the reason you have them is that He wants you to grow spiritually (that is why we exist in the first place) by overcoming them. God knows you would handle good looks (whatever that means to you) easily; just as some people can handle possessing tons of money easily. The challenge is on the other side. So God does not bother to give you a challenge that you have mastered.
You have to realize that self pity will not achieve positive results. Sit up and face the challenges. Is it that God wants you to develop your self discipline about the food you eat, and so control your weight? Whatever you do, please don't forget that beauty inside is far more valuable than beauty outside. There are lots of people who look gorgeous but are not fun to be with. Finally, you are a direct child of God, not a fake but an original child. God would not like you to have a low esteem of yourself by thinking you are inferior to any other person.
2007-04-04 23:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by RAFIU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is take it easy on yourself. The fact that you pray to the Lord and respect His feelings on things shows me alot about you. Dearheart, God doesn't make junk. And He certainly didn't in your case either. The world has this idiotic image of what is beautiful and what is not, and they put so much pressure on people. Hollywood parades these skinny "whatevers" around and set the trends on how people are supposed to look. Society seems to show favor to those who seek to look like them, and act like them. But God's standards are so much different. When Almighty God says that His creation is "good", then that comes from the best authority there is. And God thinks you're pretty darned cute and special.......so who's words count the most? The worlds? Or God?
I know the world is cruel to you. And it's cruel to people who are handicapped, mentally handicapped, those who are poor and for many other reasons. And I personally despise anyone who exhibits such cruelty upon another. But yet we have to live here, for the time being. And we endure their harsh words towards us. But it's so much worse when we add to their cruelty......with cruelty to ourselves. Please don't do that.
God loves you, hears you, understands you, and forgives you for everything. That is what God does best. And let me tell you one more thing........ God has special plans for you. In your lifetime, you will find out what He has in store. You were put here for a purpose, and that purpose is to serve Him in the capacity that He made you. And you're going to see wonderful things happen in your life, and the only thing you will be able to do then is look to the heavens and say, "Thank you, Lord." You'll see.
Smile.....it's ok. OK ?
2007-04-04 23:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by C J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deas Sister, one very great saint in the Catholic Church is a lady who was so ugly that many did not want to look at her. She however was full of an inner beauty and strength that comes from being in close relationship with God as you are, so keep it up and as for the times you feel down, Jesus felt very discouraged that Thursday night and he prayed to His Father, do the same. How many who look beautiful seek to commit suicide, external beauty is shallow. Life is a great gift from God, love God through it.
2007-04-05 00:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by peaceisfromgod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he understands that you are hurting and unhappy. I hope that you will learn to change you state of mind and if you are unable to do that get some help. Everyone has something beautiful about them. Low self esteem is a very difficult thing to deal with. I can tell you that once you start to accept yourself as you are and choose to move forward you can be happy. There are two people whose opinions of you should matter, your own and Jesus. That's it. good luck and I will pray for you.God Bless.
2007-04-04 23:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Only hell mama ever raised 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course He will my darling. You are going through a horrible time in your life at the moment and anger, guilt, and feeling bad are probably all part of it. God is big enough to cope with your anger. Look at the Psalms, there were writers there who were pretty pissed off and bitter. It's healthy for you to feel angry - I don't think it's healthy for you to be hurting yourself though. God wants you to be happy, and I think it would really help to get some counselling to help you work out some things in your life, if you are feeling this way.
(((((HUGS)))))
2007-04-04 23:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will and remember God loves you just the way you are. As as the author said "But he don't want to leave you that way...he wants to make you just like Jesus" God wants to give you joy and happiness and lots and lots of love. If you haven't already Ask Jesus into your heart. Your in my prayers
2007-04-04 23:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by † H20andspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a purely "humanistic" perspective, I am me, you are you; we can love each other, but we will always remain distinct and separate. If I am kind to you, then it is "me" going out of my way to be kind to "you." But from the soul perspective, we are all one. Our bodies may be separate, but our souls are deeply linked, because we are all part of the one Divine source. So the kindness I show you is as natural and innate as the kindness I show myself.
2007-04-04 23:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋