what should I say next time I met her? How can I comfort? Should I just avoid the topic?
2007-04-04 21:08:39 · 6 answers · asked by chicken_mayonnaise_sandwich 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it's her first and the doctor said baby didn't have any heartbeat
2007-04-04 21:17:13 · update #1
thanks all for the answers!
2007-04-09 19:24:40 · update #2
I know when i miscarried i did not want anyone talking to me about it or asking me questions about it. If i wanted to talk about it then i would but i just didn't like anyone to bring it up to me.
I had people to tell me that they were sorry that happened to me and i did thank them but i would not talk about it to your friend unless she mentions it.
2007-04-04 21:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be sympathetic, but not over the top. She may not even really want to talk about it. It's a hard thing to go through, that's for sure.
I just got over mine that happened over 3 years ago about 6 months ago (still kinda hurts, but not like before). Not sure if that's common, but sometimes it can be *very* hard on somebody. Just offer her your support and let her know you're there for her. And talking about babies and baby showers might not be a good idea for a while.
Sorry, all I have to go off of is my own experience, but hopefully it was some help ^^:
2007-04-04 21:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't talked to her yet, just tell her you are sorry for her lost. If she wants to talk about it, she will. Work might be her escape from the whole situation, too. Probably, the hardest thing for her is seeing babies or hearing about them. She's very lucky to have a coworker who is concerned about her. For me, it was hard to talk about in the beginning, but it got better with time. The important thing to remember is that she is mourning the loss of a life, just like if the child had been born and then died.
2007-04-05 04:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, share with her that u have a friend also miscarriage.and that's me.i lost my baby when he/she had been around for 3 months, doctor told me that the fetus is died.i cried for the 1 whole month,eveything was going on for preparations to our marriage,but once my ex-boyfriends knows about it, straight away, he broke off with me. so if i am able to recover,why not.by letting her knows that the god wants her baby back,the god will return her another one,whom might be much more healthier,more energetic?who knows.
2007-04-04 21:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Katrina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, ask her how she is doing?? And if she brings up the baby, ask her is she okay!!! Is there anything you could do for her.. and show sympathy and compassion and express to her that things will get better!!!
Good Luck.. and tell your friend i'm sorry about her loss... i know that can't be easy!!!
2007-04-04 21:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to Be Mommy!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her as you normally would unless she comes to you for comfort or advice. If she's ready to be back at work she probably just wants to leave the rest of it back at home.
2007-04-04 21:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Logan and Ella's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋