I can't seem to stay away from him. I always feel it's my fault,or maybe I'm doing something wrong,and go crawling back to him.
I don't have really any friends to hang out with outside our relationship.
I'm eight months pregnant, and you would think I would still be with him because of the child we're about to have...But it's not really like that at all. He smokes weed[alot],drinks,and I think he's using cocaine,but I can't be too sure.
He dosen't seem to really care about the baby too much. He dosen't seem to want to save his money to buy the child things it needs for whenever she gets here.
He just got a job,after all this time of me being pregnant,because he needs a place to stay and his roomate said he has to get a job in order to stay at his pad.
What's wrong with me? Why can't I stay away from him. He's not good for me,but I keep thinking of the good times we use to have,or how he can sometimes be nice.
Whenever we fight he puts me down,saying I'm stupid.Please help someone
2007-04-04 20:22:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to let go of him, he sounds like he doesn't give two hoots for you or the baby.
I can promise you this, as long as you hang around him, you will NEVER have a chance to meet someone nice. You will meet someone, just get rid of this waste of space, for the sake of the child. You'll see when you have the baby, your maternal instincts will kick in and hopefully you will come to your senses and tell him to sod off.
2007-04-04 20:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by looby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling insecure because you are pregnant. Don't worry, after the baby is born there will be plenty of guys interested in you. Don't settle for this idiot. Who is going to provide for you and the baby? If you stay with him, you will be supporting him too.
Ask him to get clean--go to rehab, or you will not have anything else to do with him.
You owe it to yourself and especially your child to find a better life. Once that child becomes attached to the daddy, leaving is a lot more difficult. Leave now if he refuses to help himself. You don't need two children on your hands. (him and the baby).
2007-04-05 03:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - for your own sake. He is clearly not in the slightest interested in you and your child. Would you risk yourself getting all smashed up with your baby still in your tummy?
Let it go - for your child's sake. He is clearly not going to be setting a good example for his child. Would you risk letting your kids growing up around an acoholic dad, or a drug addict?
Perhaps a part of you is telling you that you do not want your child to go fatherless. Or perhaps a part of you is waiting for him to drop all these and change for the better. I am merely guessing in general. Stop trapping yourself in memories but take a good realistic look at who he is now. He is no longer the person he used to be, the good old times have gone and it's reality we have to embrace now.
You need to be firm, for yourself and your child.
2007-04-05 03:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by ET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard, but move on! the drug using is just going to get worse, and that's when abuse starts to happen, he'll start using cocaine, and when he's coming down from the drug and doesn't have any money to buy more, he'll take it out on the ones he loves, ive seen it happen many times, and besides, your child doesnt need to be associated with a man like this, even if it is his/her father.
2007-04-05 03:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to get away from him. We can all give you advice but you are going to do what you want to do anyhow but if he is doing drugs the state can take your baby away if you two are living together and is that what you want to happen???
2007-04-05 03:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, he was using drugs.... oh my god..... what should a stupid little naive girl like you do??????? oh my god.... first of all *****,,,, it is not the drugs that make the clown a bad guy, the drugs may amplify the problem, but the clown already had problems before the drugs came into the picture.... so lets face it you don't know how to pick a decent guy to play dunk the weinie with and now you are up **** creek without a paddle.... hope you can swim....
2007-04-05 07:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your middle name "Doormat"? Or have you just been listening to him call you stupid long enough for you to start believing he's right?
Think of the child you're about to have and the environment you want to raise him/her in. The way you are being treated by this moron of yours - is that what you want your future son/daughter to see?
2007-04-05 03:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sex and drugs do wonders
2007-04-05 03:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋