met this guy last december..he works at the gym I frequent..and he seemed really nice..and he told me when I initally met him. that if I ever wanted to go to a movie or hang out to call him, but we ended up not really following through with that..so we exercised together..and he just could not stop smiling,plus he asked me to work out with him again..so i felt there was some interest but when I called him to go out to go get starbucks he told me he was busy and he would let me know..but he never did..so finally a month passes and I see him at the gym for the first time in two months..and he;s grinning..and I asked him why is he always smiling, he said well I do that when I see people I know..so we conversated for a little while, and he explains to me that he's been stressed out with alot of things..and he aplogizes..and he says"I think we should go get that starbucks you were talking about" and he told me leave saturday open but to remind HIM on thursday...
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But the thing that gets me is Why did he ask me to remind HIM? HE says because he may forget..but I truly don't think so..Do you think he 's playing some type of game..or am I being to paranoid.. plus he reminded me that he can't figure out why I always call him on a friday or a saturday and not on any other day..so if he can remember that..how come he can't remember a date he's set up..?
2007-04-04 19:30:56 · 7 answers · asked by Laura the Capricorn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well.he said that he wanted me to keep saturday open because he may be starting a new job and he didn't kow if it was this saturday or next saturday...and to call him on remind on thursday..because he's been extra busy and stressed out at home with his family,...
2007-04-04 19:43:49 · update #1
it is not a good dating etiquette. You should find another one because he sounds likes he is playing
2007-04-04 19:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by msjerge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your question, No I do not think that is good dating etiquette, but it is still considered because he is giving you acceptable, rational reasons and if he wanted to avoid you or have you wait on him purposely he wouldn't of asked you about that starbucks coffee, maybe you should just turn him down this saturday or something, so that he doesn't think you're waiting at his feet, then it is your go the next time to follow up with the coffee date and if he goes on again with the "Remind me" crap- then you know he is playing some type of game that he is aware of and it is like a power game really where he sets the date, he has the last say and that is like dominance and dominance in a man kind of reflects on who he is in the end- but give him the benefit of the doubt.
Good Luck!
2007-04-05 05:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Blabbermouthknowitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just one woman's quite possibly jaded opinion, and feel free to disregard it. I think if he saw you as more than just someone cool to spend time with when he doesn't have "real" plans, he would act like it. I would advise against getting involved with someone who has this many red flags this early. Save yourself the grief down the line. Respect yourself. I'm sorry if this came off b*tchy, but I've just seen too many men and women put up with flakes who don't deserve their time. Good luck!
2007-04-05 04:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by poppins5456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find another guy...this fella has some issues that he isn't being honest about even with himself! You owe it to yourself..to find a better fella!
just be friends with him at the gym....not any other times!
I had a male friend from work..that I "thought" I would date...he talked like your friend...well, I found out, that he didn't want to hook up with me...he didn't even know what HE himself really wanted ...he was really mixed up!
Thank God, I let that one go!!!
2007-04-05 02:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by smilingflowergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesn't make sense, unless he doesn't get his work schedule until Friday for the weekend. I have worked jobs like that.
he doesn't sound too reliable from what you said, but maybe he's as nervous as you are.
2007-04-05 02:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by georgiegirl422 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something fishy is going on with him, If a guy wants to go out with a girl he doesn't need a reminder,,,, forget him he is flaky and a liar,,,
2007-04-06 21:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell3648 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it looks like a rat, and talks like a rat, and smells like a rat - it's a rat, sweetie. Find yourself another guy.
2007-04-05 02:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋