My sister-in-law told me to send my husband to Peru, his home town, for a surprise 40th birthday. I told her I couldn't afford it. Later, she sends me an e-mail saying that she will pay my husbands plane fare, but she states that it's only $500. I looked at the fares and they were more like $860 per person. I'm assuming that I will have to put the other amount. Do you think I am unreasonable to get my feelings hurt because I'm not invited also? My birthday is 9 days later after my husbands. Or should I tell her thank you for the invite but my husband will pass up this opportunity?
2007-04-04 19:17:07 · 11 answers · asked by Gfrog123 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I understand why that could hurt your feelings but, in some countries they do things differently. That might be why she didn't think to invite you.
I would let him go. He's your husband, so you shouldn't let your own feelings get in the way of his fun. (Wouldn't you like him to do the same for you?) I don't think you even need to discuss it unless you absolutely can't afford to pay for the trip.
Besides, since his side of the family lives in another country seeing them will be extra special for him I would think.
2007-04-04 22:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is just assuming that since you cannot afford to send your husband then it would definitely be impossible for both of you to go. She still should have invited you but give her the benefit of the doubt. Some people are just not very considerate. I'm sure if she thought you both could afford to go she would have invited you. Also, if you have kids and they are in school she might think it would be too hard for you to go, so she did not even bother inviting you. I really don't think she was going out of her way to exclude you. Anyway, I would think it would be nice for your husband to go, he may not want to go without you though. Good luck.
2007-04-04 19:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by ohbrother 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law is not married to your husband, you are. I think you should sit your husband down and explain the way you feel and the fact that you all cannot afford it. Why spend an eternity trying to make up financially you spent in one day. My feelings would be offended as well. It'd be one thing if she sent the whole amount after you told her you could not afford it, but she only sent a portion. Besides that fact, you are offended. May God Bless u.
2007-04-04 19:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to your husband about it and let it be his choice if he wants to pass it up... If he wants to go, discuss it with his sister and let her know what you saw on the rates and see how its going to be covered. Perhaps it was an oversite that you were not invited or perhaps its an implied invitation... You are married after all and therefore you are as one!
2007-04-04 19:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Chris K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a dilemma. I'd have my feelings hurt too. Hey...I know it's supposed to be a surprise party...but if your husband is going to be on a plane to Peru, he'll probably know why. Why not discuss it with him?
2007-04-04 19:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got accomplished this for my husband too. deliver your friends and kin collectively would be staggering, whether you do it at domicile or plan it out. Do some thing like dinner at your place or possibly a kin; that way you could desire to basically say you have been going over there for dinner and everybody already be there waiting to marvel him. you additionally can do the comparable factor at a eating place and basically enable him have faith you're taking him to dinner, once you get there everybody would be waiting to greet him!
2016-12-15 16:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss it with him. If she can afford to send the money for his plane ticket, can she at least pay part of one for you? It's not right that they would have a party for him and not invite his wife.
2007-04-04 21:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look gorgeous frog... your nagging has been tiresome...after 40 years give him a little credit and a break, let him go by himself...it'll do both you a world of good.
2007-04-04 19:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him too. It'll still be a suprise for him even if he knows because there will probably be people there he is not expecting.
2007-04-04 19:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, if that,s what he want,s, maybe it,s a guy party, or she can only aford the $500.00, at less it,s some time by your self to think, ask her why your not envited, it jest a once in a life time trip. that,s food for thought.
2007-04-04 19:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋