how can i change?

Question

I have a wonderful boyfriend and I'm very happy. But he annoys me a whole lot. He talks a lot about non-sense and make a lot of noise eating. I do tell him to stop sometimes which i don't think i should. I know it's petty, but it really get on my nerves. what to do?

Answer 1

I can totally understand that! I'm the type of person who can be a little over-critical of people, and of course, I'm the one who suffers for it in the end. Cause come on, who would want to hang out with someone who pesters them 24/7 on the tiniest of things?

My best advice would be to sit and consider your relationship. You say you're very happy with this guy. That's great! But let's face it, no relationship isn't going to have its bumps.

Just think, I'm sure there are little things you do that annoy him, but he just tends to let it go.

I'm not trying rag on you or anything! All I'm saying is that, if you consider this relationship a long-lasting one that you want to put time and effort into (and it sounds like you do!), then you're just going to have to let those little annoyances fly.

How? The best way, think before ya complain. Is such a thing as his muching loudly worth throwing away this relationship?

If you're absolutly positive that you just can't handle it though, you're just going to have to voice this to him. But I highly don't advise it! If you don't get over these annoyances, you're just going to find more things about him that annoy you, and then you'll never get over them. You might explode at him.

You'll never find a person without some annoying qualities... that's human nature! Learn to look tiny annoyances over, and you'd be surprised how much more friendly and open to different kinds of people you'll become! Tackle this endevour (no I can't spell) now, while ya still can! :)

Best of luck to you!
Anna :D

Answer 2

You will appreciate that if he can enjoy the non-sense and noise eating, you could also find fun in it. Life is not only about sense and only about the way we look at it. Every other person has different perspective of enjoying the life. I am confident, you will start liking non-sense & noise eating and he will slowly start liking sense and msyouree style.

Answer 3

This is a good question.

Typically, a person enters a relationship for selfish reasons, for self satisfaction. If your partner is someone who satisfies you, and you enjoy being with him, then you will need to learn to cope, and love his character and habits. No one is perfect, and if you leave him for someone who is, you might have some serious regrets down the road.

Note: You could talk to him politely about his loud eating. He won't be offended, if he's an understanding person.

Answer 4

Tell him that he annoys you so much that you actually posted a question on Yahoo answers...if that doesn't wake him up...than maybe he isn't for you...

if he knows what annoys you (meaning you have told him in straight forward words), than its a form of disrespect to not acknowledge your feelings.

please be sure that you have TOLD him your feeling. Using WORDS not body-language or signals. Women tend to be vague...

Answer 5

If this is the worse problem in your relationship, don't worry about it. Remember that you have faults also. When you love someone you overlook the little things. If you can't, you are probably not in love.

Answer 6

eating sounds are not enough to break up a good relationship...as for talking about nothing, maybe you can come up with a topic that will interest you both when he does this

Answer 7

Serenity Now.

Answer 8

hahaha same here. dont change though, just tell him its annoying. tell him it bothers you and he can at least keep it on the down-low. it'll be fine. haha good luck =)