You know what is really frustrating? There are so many children born in horrible circumstances. Be it a?

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crack baby, or neglectful parents, young (very young) parents that cannot care for the child the way they should. I hate to sound so harsh, but these are not good conditions for a baby to be in. For some reason though, people that are trying to be parents, are responsible, take care of themselves, would absoultely put their child above all else are the ones I notice (or at least lately around me) have miscarriages most often. It seems so unfair, and I'm so sick of seeing it happen. Not that I want these other people to have miscarriages or anything, I just don't want them getting pregnant at all. Does anyone else find this to be disheartening and frustrating? Thanks.

Answer 1

I know just what you're saying. And the sad thing is I'm learning more doing foster care. The laws are such that social workers have to do whatever they can to keep these abused and neglected kids with the parents. The laws in this country need to change to start protecting the children. Very small percentage of parents that recieve help end up being decent parents. A lot don't want the help and don't care and the kids pay for it.

Answer 2

Totally agree with you.
My bf's family on his mother's side has/is having some serious fertility issues.. And they all love children SO much and would love them to pieces, but his aunt was unable to have children and eventually had to have a hysterectomy.
And his uncle and his wife are also having absolutely no luck in getting pregnant either.
It's seriously frustrating and heartbreaking that good people are being denied the experience while others, who couldn't care less about anyone can pop out a kid left and right without a 2nd thought.

Answer 3

Some people got pregnant for the wrong reason.
They think that being a mother is fun but nobody has warned them about being responsible, not only to the child but to herself too.
They think that they can be themselves even though they are pregnant, which is not possible. Only when they have miscarriage then they start to wake up...
Just remember one thing, everything happens for a cause (can be both good and bad).

Just take it easy... Cheers!

Answer 4

Yes I agree with you funny because I was having this same conversation today with a friend whom has had 2 miscarriages. I guess it just another one of those things that we will never understand.

Answer 5

I know what you are saying. There are a lot of good people who would make terriffic parents who are unable to have children due to fertility problems, and it's a shame.

Answer 6

This is one of the best questions I have seen yet. I would like to enlighten you too as far as our government and Child Protective services goes. You are absolutely right as far as fairness. No!!!! It is not fair that folks wanting their own babies end up having miscarriages or having babies with severe physical/mental defects. It is sad when a crack baby machine keeps putting out these poor babies who will carry this problem throughout their lives because the addicted parents were too irresponsible to use a rubber!!!!. I swear, those idiots need to look into abortion, why not? The county will pay for it!!!! Those little souls get to go right Home, to Heaven! There, they feel no pain. They won't have to deal with their lame ***, no good for nothing parents either.

Now, on the other side of the hand is unscrupulous CPS (child protective services) workers who are only interested in securing future job security while taking very loved children away from loving, natural parents. I will tell you, I was a natutral mother whose husband was abusive to me. He never took much interest in his little girls, meaning he never paid any attention, discipline or otherwise to them. As soon as that criminal CPS worker saw bruises on my arms, she asked if I would like some help. I did want some help, to make the man I loved stop hitting and taking all of his s h i t out on me and guess what? They swooped in on my beautiful children and took them away from me, saying, "You can't protect yourself, nevertheless your children". A horrible statement at best. That was wrong. I am now listed as a child abuser on their federal database because my ex couldn't turn in a clean drug test for pot!!!!! My daughters were handed over to his parents who are now in court themselves for beating and sexually molesting my teenage girls. Now, the girls have made contact with me, thank the Lord and want to be with me. It is all about the almighty dollar.

Okay, I am sorry, I rambled but just remember this. Those babies who don't make it are spared from this life on this planet at this time. Hell is not fire and brimstone. Hell is here. Now! Those who are gone are the lucky ones. We wrote our life plans before we came here. We didn't come here to live perfect lives. We came here to learn lessons so as to perfect our lives on our spiritual journey to the 'God' pool. God is the collection of all souls who learned their lessons in the many lives they have lived on this planet. Some children do get abused and a lot killed (at the hands of foster and adopted parents...look it up) and I truly believe it is because in a previous life they may have been the abuser and were sent back to learn how it feels being on the other end. Know what I mean? Nobody has to agree with my reasoning but all that religous, bible thumping s h i t doesn't make any sense to me. It is stupid at best. The little itty bitties go right back Home or Heaven if you will where they are so incredibly happy and at peace. Suffering only lasts a very short time. It really does. I feel for those who had to suffer but fact is? It only lasts a short time. Then, nothing but bliss.

I am sorry I rambled but I hate that screwed up word, 'Neglect'. In CPS' eyes, neglect has no real definition or limit. It is up to the screwed up recently graduated childless college idiots than can only ace psychology (bottom rung of the ladder) to say if you are a fit parent. LOL! Believe you me, they are all going to be held accountable one day for destroying families that never deserved it and for not paying attention to the families with kids who really needed their help. All for the almighty dollar and future job security. They suck! Neglect??? LOL!!!! Can anyone tell me the exact meaning of that word?????LOL!

Hey, Thanks for letting me vent. Something does need to change but when your small, beautiful children hang in the balance, it is better to just shut up and put up with our governments crap because you will lose your children if you stand up against HHS' unfair practices. They're too busy attacking innocent parents and ignoring those babies who are truly neglected. Child Protective services is nothing but a drain on the social security coffers I paid into with years of working. When I need it, it will be drained!!!! Prove me wrong. There are a lot of uneducated people on here who will probably attack my answer but that is only because they don't have a clue what is going on. :)