Ok I'm 30 years old with 2 sets of twins a boy and girl who are 10, and a girl and boy who are 2 months. Now 2night my husband asked me can we have another baby. And you know you I'm like I have enough kids in fact I've gave you 2 sets of twins and plus I just had 2 babies 2 months ago. So he says he miss me being pregnant i'm like i don't and what if I have another set of twins or more men just don't get it. So what can I tell him to change his mind about wanting another baby? I mean I explained my reason to him but I want to know if there any more, more convincing then mines.
2007-04-04 18:23:17 · 11 answers · asked by cutie313 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Goodness gracious, tell him your not a freakin machine! lol...It's understandable that he would miss you being pregnant, and that's a compliment--means you were probably cute pregnant and not a total witch either. But missing being pregant isn't a valid reason for having another baby. Tell him he should enjoy the new babies and spend time giving them the love and attention they deserve. They're only going to be little for a short time, he doesn't want to miss out on that by worrying about having more! Good luck and congrats!
2007-04-04 18:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know guys that do things like this and it makes me sick. Spend hundreds even thousands of dollars on their pointless hobbies and toys and then b*tch or say they can't afford it if their kids want or even need something. Personally I would never be married to someone this immature and irresponsible and selfish. I'm guessing this isn't the first thing like this he's done. I doubt he's been a responsible father and husband all this time and all of a sudden he decides to drop 2 grand on some drums. So if that's the case there's probably nothing you can do. Lemme guess he tells you it's "his" money and he can do what he wants with it, right? You've already told him you were against it and he went so far as to buy it anyways what do you think you can do or say to change his mind? I seriously doubt he will agree to get rid of them. Your best bet is to try to talk to him and tell him ok this is it, no more ridiculous spending on yourself, we have a child to think about. You got your drums from now on we need to be in agreement before either of us spends this kind of money. If he won't agree to it I really think I would threaten to leave him. At least then you would get child support and be in control of your own situation.
2016-05-17 09:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than tell you all this myself, go to the website of Zero Population Growth. I have taken many science and environmental classes, all made it clear that EVERY form of environmental problem we are facing can be traced back to overpopulation.
On the personal level, it's your body. You have the right to say no, and it's the final answer. We all must make adjustments to changing conditions in our lives, not always willingly, so this is one change your husband may have to make for a happy family. Don't be abrupt or harsh with him about this, perhaps you can even thank him for loving you at a time that some men find repulsive in their wives. Presenting these arguments when either of you is feeling hot under the collar is probably not the best time to communicate this. Listen to the conditions at hand, then, when you are sure he is feeling receptive to your ideas, tell him your honest feelings. Don't expect immediate acceptance, be patient.
2007-04-04 18:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you dont want more children right now and ask or rather tell him that you want to wait until the second set of twins are older. ALso explain that your not sure that you can handle another set of twins and since you've already had 2 i think you would have a pretty good chance to have another. hope you get your message across to him.
good luck and congrats on the twins.
2007-04-04 18:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by dancergirlanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...tell him that another pregnancy would put you health at risk. It is true. You would have an increased chance of physical as well as emotional problems. It is a bit of a stretch, but tell him if you got pregnant again you could die, it is not likely of course, but there are risks involved. If he doesnt respond to that reasoning , then he is bein selfish and unreasonable. It seems as if you have done your share. I wonder just how much help he gives you with those kids.
2007-04-04 18:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by Edward H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...wow, your husband is roughly those love kids type.u can reject him. but if by rejecting him make the 2 of you's feelings to change,it will be a big problems.simple why not both of you just get down and have a gd chat.let him know that you had eventually gave birth to 2 sets of twins.should appreciate it, but if he wants the family to be more livlier, why not.
2007-04-04 21:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Katrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure u both have stable jobs, and why is he askn when ur babies are only 2 months old, r u a housewife? maybe hes jus jealous of u dat he dont want u to be at home. really, theres no right or wrong answers, opinions yeah is all we can offer, only da mind knows....
2007-04-04 18:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him take care of the kids for a few weeks all by himself and see how he feels after that.
I'm sure once he sees how much work you're having to do with all of those kids, he will be a bit more sympathetic to your situation.
2007-04-04 18:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by shollia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 children is plenty of kids. Most families can't support more than that.
Has he really considered it from a financial point of view, or is he looking at it from a "he likes pregnancy hormones" stance?
2007-04-04 18:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him NO. Stand up for yourself, it's your body, not his. Tell him HE can carry and deliver the next one. And as soon as he can pass a kidney stone the size of a bowling ball through his plumbing, you will be happy to have another child.
2007-04-04 18:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋