2007-04-04 18:06:49 · 56 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-04-04 18:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jagger Otto 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There are several questions you should ask yourself. How serious is this relationship? Is it one you perceive lasting a long time? Or is it just a "take it as it comes" day-by-day type relationship? Can you accept being with someone who does not have the same belief system as you for a long time? Does it bother you that he is not the same religion as you?
More than anything, you should listen to your instincts, listen to your little inner voice that often speaks quietly but always speaks the truth to you, if you listen to it. If you think that you can put up with having a different religion from your significant other, than don't worry about it. However, if you feel your differences will always somehow come between you and create an element of disharmony in the relationship, then perhaps it is time to move on and tell that relationship goodbye. You must realize that what you and/or he perceives as disharmony eventually turns to bitterness and resentment in the long run.
Ask yourself these questions, contemplate them and your situation in a place where you can be alone and free from the distractions and opinions of others who may meddle in your life too much. Listen to your small inner voice, and it will tell you the truth.
Good Luck, whatever you decide : )
2007-04-04 18:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nelly Wetmore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... Does it mean a lot to you that he believe what you believe or others believe? Does it matter to you if you one day marry this man who is an atheist - would your family understand, friends, and how would he handle the holiday season? Would he be around doing the family events that many of us do every year or will he refuse to be a part of it? How would you feel if you have children with a man who is atheist? If you don't like this idea then I think you should end it. There is no point being with someone that you can't see yourself with in the future. But, if you're open to learn new things and find out why he thinks the way he thinks and he's open to listen to what you believe without downing, then maybe there is a chance he could 'see the light'. But just remember, he's not evil because he doesn't follow what you do or others. He might just if a 'science type' mind if you know what I mean.
2007-04-04 18:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by platinum_civic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Anna,
i think i would need to know a little bit more about the situation before offering any advice. You say "you just found out" (did you know before you started the relationship? Were you deceived and thought he was something else?"
i think it depends on how important religion is to you personally (i am assuming this as this is the religion/spirituality section), because it matters in the future as you have kids (do the kids go to church?) On what set of values will you raise your kids?
And also because as two people get married they become one (and that means they should be able to share everything), if a relationship with God is personally valuable to you- it's something that you can share with someone else- but the difference in values will create a barrier their along with how decisions are made in other issues...
Anyhow i think those are some things you have to consider.
Feel free to email me-- if you'd like any more thoughts, advice,...
Hope that helps. Kindly,
Nickster
2007-04-04 18:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nickster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll make this somewhat quick since it's among 50 other answers...
I'm a pagan. I dated a pretty strict Xtian for almost a year, when I was younger. Toward the end, he started treating me like cr@p (disrespecting me & such). I broke up with him for treating me this way. Did I respect him & his beliefs? Certainly did! I went to church with him, went to the Xtian group after/in school with him, and it was genuine. He would not give me the same respect.
Most athiests & agnostics have an open mind & respectful persona, despite being passionate about their beliefs. The question to you is, can you respect him & his beliefs? Can you teach him your beliefs, as well as learn his comfortably & without trying to convert him? If the answer is no to either of those questions, break up with him; and, while you're at it, get a lobotamy, because we live in a society where religious intolerance is not tolerable. If yes, may your God be with you always (and yes, I mean that :D )
2007-04-04 18:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obvious he is tolerant of your religious views or else you wouldnt be dating him.
Finding out that soeoe you are dating has religious veiws that differes from yours or totally goes against them isnt a reason to drop them like a hot potato.
A couples religious views or lack there of is imporant specially if you are going to bring children into this world and if you can or cannot seek both sides of the picture here.
I say go with your gut and he should do the same.
Without you saying anything else about your relationship with him, I dont see that is being an Atheist is something to dump him over, but there have been much more strange things happen.
2007-04-04 18:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you should congratulate him....
First off, push away all thoughts of strict Christianity. Ask yourself the simple question: " Do you love him? "
If you do, You'll stay with him regardless of religious preferences. It's not a matter of religious intent, it is a matter of what you truly feel for him. If he feels the same way about you, you will have to accept this fact.
If you don't love him, by the tennants of your religion, you are supposed to break up with him.
However, DO NOT try to force your beliefs upon him. That shows an ugly faith for your religion and shows an ugly side to you as well. It's like saying that you refuse to compromise.
Having all that in mind, make your own rational choice, instead of relying completely on your preferred religion.
2007-04-04 18:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by third_syren_of_seduction 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say yes at this point but don;t completely ditch him if you can avoid it. If it took until you were in a relationship to find out your religous stand points there is some serius communication problems. You also must know already that a relationhip where the two have completly different beliefs also have totally different sets of morals. Imagine if you married him. How would you raise kids? It would be a very unstable upbringing for them not knowing where there parents stood on matters.
2007-04-04 18:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior Poet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, don't get in your head that you'll change him. Either accept him for who he is, or move on. If religion is important to you, then you should find someone who can share that with you. The purpose of a long term relationship is to have a companion with similar values and beliefs, to go against that is a recipe for disaster.
2007-04-04 18:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not unless this is a real problem for you - as long as you BOTH can respect and not mock the others beliefs I see no reason why you should. But to some their beliefs run so deep and you might find yourself needing that common ground for support and such - just follow your heart.
2007-04-04 18:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♪Ginny♪♫♪ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If its that important to you you should have asked before he became your bf. No i don't think you should break up with him, he might become your religion if you gave him a chance. Maybe something happened that made him atheist and he just needs you to answer some questions.
2007-04-04 18:11:03 · answer #11 · answered by melfred_20 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋