How do you deal with the fact that your love ones aren't saved?

Question

This is a very hard question. My family aren't Christians. My sister's husbands aren't either. I don't know their fate, but I doesn't look good where it seems to be heading. I also feel responsible and guilty. Should I be? Is it my job? It's hard and it's a matter of respect. Especially with my parents. I just don't have the strength and courage to change them. I'm also knew to this. This is all new to me. It's sad I didn't grow up in a devout christian family. I was blessed to have found the truth. I

I've opened up my eyes for the first time. I opened my heart for the first time. I need help. I don't know what to do. I feel the guilt.

Answer 1

If you are an LDS (Latter Day Saints) follower there is such a thing as "baptism after death."

Answer 2

So-- they can see how salvation has changed you, and they still don't believe? Interesting. What HAS changed about you? Are you more compassionate? Less worldly? More interested in the welfare of the poor, the outcaste and the stranger? Or do you perhaps preach the rules of "salvation" at people like a Pharisee? Any dimestore psychiatrist, beat cop, lunchroom counsellor or minister with a credit for Pastoral Care 101 can tell you, YOU can't "change" ANYONE. The only way to "teach" someone a better way is to exemplify it. If your lifestyle isn't convincing anyone to question their own assumptions, then you have someone more important to work on than them.

Christianity is not a club that you join by making the right profession, praying the right prayers, knowing the secret handshake. It is a commitment to building the Kingdom of God. That's not just filling the roster with recruits, it's actually trying to live more like Jesus, bringing God's love and justice to the lives of the hopeless and helpless, and challenging the powerful with truth. Preaching is just talk. God prefers fruit, action. If you feel guilty for not "converting" your family, you likely haven't given them sufficient reason to consider it.

Answer 3

Your intentions are noble and it seems that you have their best interests at heart, but you cannot change them, however, you can pray for them, and keep them in your heart. Don't push them.

You say that it's sad that you didn't grow up in a devout Christian family. Is it so sad? Who knows what your family would have been like? They could have been very different from the parents you know now. You never know for certain. For that matter, you too, could have been different too.

You say this issue is a matter of respect. You can respect your parents by respecting their decisions as adults. Each of us is really on our own in this world. It's hard, this is true. But, keep your family's interests at heart. This is their decision to make, not yours. And they should make it if they want to. If they're interested, they'll seek Christianity. If not, then it wasn't meant to be.

Let them make the choice.

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Answer 5

God is the only one who can truly help you. The way I deal with it is I pray (and sometimes fast) and ask God to open up their spiritual eyes. No one comes except the Father draw. God has opened your eyes for a reason. You are to live the life of CHrist in front of your family so that thru your living it might be some sort of testimony for them. I have heard some of my fellow saints tesify that they were saved because of their loved one that got saved and because of the way they lived, they wanted what they had. God will give you all the answers you need. Ask and have faith that He will do it. May God Bless U

Answer 6

Just show them your faith and pray about it. Try to have a conversation about what it means to be saved. Tell them that Paul tells how to become a Christian, and James goes more into detail about how to go from there.

You can plant seeds. God can change the willing heart. Do not worry. We need to accept the choices people make with their free will. Love your family and friends and loved ones here the best you can.When we are in heaven,we will have the perfect understanding. : )

Answer 7

You are like my husband you have a burden for the lost. Keep praying for them and be loving to them and encuorage them dont feel guilty there is no conemnation for those that are in Christ Jesus and that is found in Romans 8.

You have a very pure and loving heart peace be with you .

Answer 8

To begin with, understand that a "prophet is never accepted in his home." No, this doesn't mean you are a prophet, but it means that your family is less likely to take your testimony seriously than the testimony of a stranger.

That having been said, keep praying for them, and keep talking to them. My mother just got saved last year and I can't tell you how many times I had considered giving up on her. Keep praying!
God bless!

Answer 9

You have no idea how powerful prayer is. My 91 year old father confessed Jesus as his savior four days before he died; I had been praying for my dad for ten years and never saw one indication anything was getting through.

Never, ever, ever give up praying for them and showing them the love of Jesus Christ. And you have to remember, when it comes right down to it, each person has to make their own choice about who they say Jesus is.

By the way, you can change no one. Only God can change a heart. But do not be discouraged; prayer is more powerful than you can possibly imagine.

Answer 10

You be an example of a good Christian--let your life speak for you. The spirit of God will help you. I will guarantee your parents will see the difference. It's what you do and the way you life that will cause them to desire what you have. Grow in the Love of God and live it. God will take care of the rest.

Answer 11

Their salvation is not your responsibility. Your being a witness to them is. You keep praying for them. Not with guilt, but with believing in your Lord and with the power of the Holy Spirit. Feeling guilty does nothing but weaken you spiritually.