Alright do you think having sex before marriage is alright/normal or a sin. A part of me wants to wait until I'm married because of what God said. Another part of me sais that times have changed and I really do think God would change things like virginity. If i lost it to someone I cared about a lot before marriage would that be bad? This is an interesting question b/c many of those devoted will bring answers, along with those who beleive in god but have different views due to the fact times have changed. My parents are strongly devoted to God and we pray to him all the time, but even my Dad said practice safe sex cuz he knows times have changed. Jesus was here 2000 years ago, there wasn't a population of over 1 billion, with girls walking around in bikinis and new rules with relationships. Im also going to Cancun, and there have been instances where I meet a girl and we have lots in common and she is sweet but I just don't do it. What do you think about tradition vs. times today
2007-04-04 16:53:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you wait until your married, and you discover you cant stand you spouse, and you divorce, well there you are in another predicament!
I say, go for it! God forgives faster than you can! If you love someone than follow your heart. Love often fades after sex so find a girl that you'll love even after sex has taken place!
2007-04-04 17:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Most people lose their virginity in their teens to those who they will most probably never see again in a few years. Also most teens contract some or the other kind of STDs during these crazy years, the benefits for waiting for the right person outweighs the urge to get laid even if one does not bring religion into the picture. I really feel bad for the children who grow up in this sex crazed culture and have to face all these pressures when they should be concentrating on their books and video games!
Its a good thing you don't want to do anything with some sweet talking girl in Cancun or where ever, just imagine when she says she loves you on your second date, its the infatuation speaking that will only last couple of weeks after which reality hits. The girl will be gone but the STD will stay! Safe sex does not guarantee protection against STDs
2007-04-05 00:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by A fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, both my husband and I were virgins before we got married. We learned together. I think that giving all of yourself to someone, and them knowing that it is your all, makes it that much more special. There were times I was tempted, and it was hard to stop and say no, but I think if the person really loves you, they won't care if you sleep with them until you are married.
I don't buy into the taking it for a test drive statement. If you both are virgins, neither one knows what to expect really, and you learn what each other likes, and doesn't like, in a secure, loving, non-judgmental way.
Also, with the amount of teen pregnancies, abortions, STD's and other diseases going around today, keeping yourself pure is a lot better then what could happen. Birth control is never 100%, except for abstinence!! Trust me as someone who sees it all the time, it's better to wait until you are married. That way you are sure they are clean, they know you are clean, and you won't have to ever worry about catching something, or having an unwanted pregnancy.
2007-04-05 00:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life, but my advice is to wait. Watching friends grow up, I have seen those who have been devastated by getting involved. In fact, everyone of my close friends that I have talked to that have become involved before marriage have regretted how things turned out. Two of my best friends are struggling now, because they slipped up one night. They both had their whole futures ahead of them, and now that is all in jeopardy. I know this sounds like a horror story, and it is, but sadly this has been my observation, and it is not just limited to this couple. If you have the feelings of valuing it like you do, I think it is definitely worth it to save that for your marriage.
For those who say that you want a test run, if you don't know any different, you won't hate it, and you will love them.
2007-04-05 00:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by moonman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you get married, your spouse will thank you for it. Don't you want to be able to give your WHOLE self to your spouse and not just a piece of you?
Think about the consequences. 1 in 4 high school seniors will graduate this year with an STD. Pregnancy is on the rise, abortion is on the rise, the number one cause of death for pregnant women is murder. Do you really want to have to worry about all that??
Condoms are at best 80% effective, is that the kind of chance you want to take?
And if you think you have to "kick the tires" or "test drive" something before you get married, you're not trusting God to provide you with a pleasing spouse. Don't trust humans, trust in God.
2007-04-04 23:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Once you decide to have sex, random or otherwise, it loses its value. Yes it is fun. It feels good. You break up with someone you "love" then when you meet the next person it is easier to have sex even if you are not in love. Now it means nothing. When you do get married you might have sex even less because it means nothing anymore. I wish I had waited.
2007-04-05 00:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by Cathi K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God's Word has to change because sinful mankind is more "accepting"?
God's guidance about sexual behavior is for our protection, not to spoil our fun. Waiting will enhance the sexual relationship in marriage.
2007-04-05 00:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine and darn fun by the way. You are missing out on the best years of your life to deny yourself your bodies urges. If you don't want to then don't. Make it special if thats your thing, but don't deny yourself just because book says something is naughty.
Virginity was merely a concept indoctrinized because of personal moral beliefs of writers.
Im not advocating becoming the town hoar or anything, just realize that if it feels right, go for it.
2007-04-04 23:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's a dilemma question. I cant answer you!
2007-04-05 00:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you buy a car without test driving it?
2007-04-04 23:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by rosbif 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋