me and my boyfriend ave been dateing going on a year in 2 weeks.... tonight me and him were talking (on the phone) and he was playing around with me and told me to stop playing with myself, him being goffy anyways he brought up his ex gfs and places were he has done it with them. I know we have our past and all but i got this weird feeling inside of me when he told me of all the places. (i have never kissed a guy till him and done "IT" till him)..... we have not done much and what not.... but what should i do???
2007-04-04 15:38:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should do what you are comfortable with. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with. You should be able to communicate these things with him. It is healthy to have likes and dislikes and to be able to discuss what you feel comfortable or uncomfortable with.
If you don't want to talk about his past relationships because it is his past, tell him. He should not be telling you details anyway. My boyfriend wouldn't want any details of my past and told me so. I wouldn't want to share that anyway.
Tell him you only want to make a future and do not want to discuss his past in details like that as you are not comfortable, or whatever reason, or you don't have to give a reason. You just don't want to hear it.
You should always be open with your communication and your honesty. Don't be shy about expressing your feelings in those ways. Please don't stop communicating whatever you do.
2007-04-04 15:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past relationships need to stay in the past. If you already know he had other girlfriends than that's all you need to know. He shouldn't be sharing intimate details if he cares about you. That's such a slap in the face. You need to definitely tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel and how you consider your relationship special and when he brings up the other girls it minimizes your importance. If he acts like he doesn't care or doesnt respond well than he's probably still hung up on one of his exes. In that case move on and find someone who will really appreciate you and only you. Good luck
2007-04-04 22:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable when he says stuff like that, tell him so. If he loves you he will care about your feelings and want you to be comfortable -- and if he doesn't, you need to know about it.
You should also remind him that it's in bad taste to talk about intimate details of his past relationships with you. There are some things you need to know, true (i.e. did they use protection), but overall you don't need to hear about how good some other girl was. Indeed, from your brief description it sounds like he was bragging -- and you are definitely the wrong person for him to brag to.
2007-04-04 22:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key... If you are feeling unconfortable about what he tells you then tell him... Explain to him that you know his past and you understand but you would really like to not talk about it... You would rather him just talk to you without having to bring any other names into the conversation... But you have to be calm and nice about it or he will get the wrong impression!!
2007-04-04 22:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Shandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like he's talking about his exes too much, maybe you can think of something new for both of you (role playing? chocolate massage? sexy pictures?) that you can explore together as a couple.
2007-04-04 22:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by CerGrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that that kind of talk makes you uncomfortable and you would really prefer it if he does not bring up those issues. If he is ANY kind of gentleman, he will apogolize for disrespecting you. If he can not or will not agree to this - trust me, HE'S NOT WORTH IT!!!! (especially since this is your first serious relationship)
2007-04-04 22:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its a really crappy feeling when you hear about that stuff but i wouldnt let it bother you to much...most people have a past and of course you know there is nothing you can do about it..so i would just try to forget about it! but whatever you do DONT TRY TO COMPETE WITH IT!!!
2007-04-04 22:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by prep745 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you know that he feels comfortable talking to you about that. Don't worry, just act calm.
2007-04-04 23:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by rosefunnymonkey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont dwell on it. Its in the past. Just remember, hes with YOU now and not those other girls.
2007-04-04 22:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by one_thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋