When the time came to ask someone to help me plan the wedding and make sure everything runs smothly for the big day, one of my friends (an interior designer) from work was the logical choice. I helped her with some stuff for her wedding last year too. She wanted to help, she had even asked me before I decided who I wanted to ask. Well, last week she stabbed me in the back. I told her some stuff thinking that I could trust her, she turned around and used it to almost get me fired from my job. I don't want to make a big deal out of it for my job's sake and the fact that I have to work with her everyday. But I also don't want anything more that a work relationship. I've already stopped talking to her about anything not pertaining to work. My question is: How do I let her know that I no longer want her assistance with out making a big fuss over it and having her cause a sceen at work? Also, am I wrong for not wanting her help after what she did to me?
2007-04-04 15:03:36 · 6 answers · asked by warriorchic84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ummm personally i would just tell her to F off, but that's me...I cant understand why you want anything to do with her after what she did...
2007-04-04 15:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its your wedding, telling someone you no longer need their assistance is just to tell her, especially if she's causing you problems at work. There is no reason for someone that is supposed to be a friend even at work cause you to nearly loose our job. I say just tell her politely that you've decided to no longer use her assistance and that you'd like it if she'd not help you any longer.
If you feel that she's going to cause an issue about it at work see if you can find someone to stand by your side or to talk to your boss and see if they can talk to her to see if she' leave you alone. But I feel that your not wrong in not wanting her help any longer, no one should do that to anyone.
2007-04-05 00:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I just would not mention any of my plans to her. If she still wants to help (I'm assuming that you guys have had a falling-out, so she probably isn't planning to help anymore), then she will mention something to you about it. If she mentions it, that would be a good time to tell her that you have been able to find enough help elsewhere, and don't need her assistance.
2007-04-04 22:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the high road. Thank her for the help she has given you so far with your wedding. Tell her you have decided to go in a different direction with your plans, and you'll be doing it yourself.
2007-04-04 23:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must know by your cooler attitude that she has done something wrong. If she hasn't apologized consider that she KNOWS that the friendship is seriously impaired. Don't mention anything more to her and move on.
2007-04-04 22:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her that you and your husband want to plan the event together seeing as it is HIS day as well as yours, and that you no longer need her help.
2007-04-05 08:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋