my great grandmother is dying and the doctors say they dont even know if she'll make it through the night. i never had anyone that close to me die before. i dont know what im gonna do. i live in new orleans and she lives in dallas, and i feel guilty cause i might not get a chance to tell her good bye. what should i do to get through this? can anyone help me im really need help.
2007-04-04 14:53:39 · 6 answers · asked by egm 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Write her a letter, and tell her everything you want to say. you don't have to send it, but she will know once she dies how you felt. when she does pass, do something to honor her memory with, like plant a tree, or some of her favorite flowers.
Good Luck, God Bless!
2007-04-04 15:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by ntouchspa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I am sorry that your grandmother is dying. Know that even though you didn't "say good-bye", she knows that you love her and she loves you.
Dying is a part of life and we all experience it from time to time as we age. If we have a good connection with the spiritual and understand that when we die we go to God and live with Him forever, then death is not scary or final.
Your grandmother is going to be with God in a wonderful place. She will feel no pain and will be surrounded by love. She will always be with you and you will be together someday. I hope if you know that, it will give you some peace. Pray for her.
Remember the good times with her and cherish those when you feel down. Take care.
2007-04-04 22:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John 5: 28, 29 gives us a promise "the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgement." There is another verse that says there will be a resurrection of the righteous and the unrighteous. When that resurrection occurs you will be able to tell her hello and have the prospect of never having to say goodbye. It is also comforting to know that she will be at peace, as if she were merely sleeping. Ecclesiastes 9:5 says "the dead are conscious of nothing at all".
2007-04-04 23:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by PinkSyd BarrettFloyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do call her - even if she can't respond, have them put the phone next to her ear and tell her what you want her to know.
Say good-bye from your heart, and be open to 'hearing' what your grandmother wants to say from her heart. People do have that kind of heart connection, even over long distances, and in difficult circumstances.
Also, please know that your grandmother would probably not want you to carry any guilt - most likely she'd want you to keep and carry all the love she had for you.
2007-04-04 23:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D. Star Reader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry sweety , death is something that we all experience at one time or another... first i lost me best friend , then my mom , then my grandparent, theres not really any thing i can tell you that will make it ezer except for this one thing that i know to be true.... tell your grand ma what you want her to hear... she will hear your thoughts and you might hear hers ,but you have to listen for them... this may sound strange but its real
your going to miss her but know that she is going to a place where she will feel young and healthy again.. keep focused on that.
each day that passes will get a little ezer
i promise
2007-04-04 22:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by NAYNAY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call her now even if she is not able to understand that it is you or even what you are saying. this is something you need to do for you.
2007-04-04 22:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by calired67 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋