I'm 20 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My husband and I are thinking about waiting 5 years before having another child so I can finish college. But many people say that 5 years will cause conflict and jealousy amongst our kids. We'll decide what we want, but what do you think?
2007-04-04 14:48:03 · 18 answers · asked by rockgurl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As you said this is your decision. All of my girls are really close together and I am glad of that because they have someone to play with when we can't go somewhere where there are other kids. But by the same token I sometimes wonder why we didn't have more space so that each child was able to get more attention from me before they had a sibling. But my girls are really close and refer to each other as "mine." Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-04-04 14:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mother of 7 kids and pregnant with my 8th child waiting has been really hard for me....lol When i had my 5 year old i wanted to wait till she was 5 to have another but i was presurred by my husband family and friends to just have another so i have a 3 year old it has worked out well...They are in preschool together and they look out for each other. I have a 6 month old and am 11 weeks pregnant im a lil nervous but i have made it this far.... I think whatever you decide will be good... yea theres always jealousy no matter how far apart they are... good luck on whatever you choose
2007-04-04 21:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Chris and Tania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a fan of the bigger age gap...my oldest is 7 (almost 8), my middle child is 3 (almost 4), and my youngest is due in July, so they are all about 4 years apart (and all girls). It was great for me because I got/get to enjoy the "baby" years with each one, not to mention there was only one at a time to potty train and they are old enough to help out a little and feel a certain level of responsibility, which is a good lesson to learn.
My mother-in-law on the other hand had my husband and his brother 16 months apart, and while my husband was doing the fun baby stuff (ie. learning to walk, talk, etc) she was distracted by a lot of the discomforts of pregnancy, and she didn't get to enjoy the good side of her second pregnancy, because she had a baby with colic or that was teething.
Either way though, children are a blessing and no matter how close or far apart they are, they should be welcomed with all the love you have to give. Good Luck with your decision, and remember you are young and have plenty of time.
2007-04-04 22:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother and I are 5 years apart and growing up it was hard. I remember not being able to do a lot of family things. Either I was too young or he was too old to enjoy what the activity was. We had nothing in common and really did not get to enjoy each other at all. In the younger years we never played together and I think I was just a pest to him. I can remember being in middle school and high school and him thinking he was my boss (always saying what I could do, who I could date, etc.). I always wished I had a sibling that was closer to my age so that I had some company someone that new what I was talking about. Now that we are grown we are closer but it took us being adults to have anything in common. This is just my experience..........
2007-04-04 21:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there will be more jealousy and conflict at 5 years that there wouldn't be at 2 years. Good for you for wanting to wait. Don't let anyone pressure you to have another kid sooner than you want.
There's 5 years between me and my bro and 2 1/2 between me and my sis and i get along with them both the same.
2007-04-04 21:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by makesbabe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my son is 5 1/2 years old. his dad wants to try for a girl now. has been asking to try for about 2 years now. i keep refusing. problem with waiting is that after your 1st one grows up some you may not feel up to having another and go back to all the little things diapers bottles ect. my bro had his 2nd when his 1st was only 4 months old. lol. worked for them but he an his wife are very tired. lol. no answer is a good answer unless it is yours to make.school is important tho. just know that the option is open when you feel ready but deeply consider school for school & career will give your children a better life. good luck.
2007-04-04 21:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by LostInReality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your business and it does not matter what others think.I have a brother 5 years older than me and there was no problem except i just had a big brother to watch out for me.You and your husband will make the right decision
2007-04-08 21:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest and my second child are 41/2 years apart and they are both girls and they get along fine they still play together and do things together. They are great friends they are 41/2 and 9. So I don't see a problem with the age gap. Good luck with what ever you decide.
2007-04-04 22:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 23. My kids are 4, 2, and 9 months......wait the five years!!!! Though the older two love to play together and sometimes can be friends they also always want the same things....food....drinks.....clothes....and the exact same toy. I can honestly say I do not know how I keep my (relative) sanity. Please wait and finish school....I still haven't it will allow you to give your children all of the things they ever dream of .
2007-04-04 21:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish college, Kids can wait. Plus 5 years is perfect, cause the older one now has school to focus on, and thats a big thing for them. (at any age you'll have the jealousy)
2007-04-04 21:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋