why do i only seem to be happy when im with my boyfriend? how come i have a hard time having fun with my friends when im just constantly thinking about my boyfriend? im in high school and ive been with him for two years and i know i need a equal balance between my friends and my boyfriend. its just im spending so much less time with my friends and i feel so distance and not able to connect with any of them. is this weird? im just worried because if something did happen with my boyfriend and we broke up i wont really have anyone ......
im busy with sports constantly and i always try to save a day to hang out with my boyfriend so that pretty much takes up my weekend.
maybe when summer comes things will be different.
2007-04-04 14:36:02 · 24 answers · asked by ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow! you really have a lot on your mind. you're stressing way too much for someone who's still in high school sweetie. and it sounds like you need a break before you have a nervous breakdown. you don't have enough time for yourself! but I understand where you're coming from. and I'll try my best to give you some advice.
try talking to your friends, and let them know that you're not purposely neglecting your friendships with them, and you'd like to spend more time with them. and maybe you could all figure out a time that all of you could meet and go out to dinner and a movie together and just be girls!
then, talk to your boyfriend, and let him know how you're feeling. and don't be so afraid of losing him! if he really cares about you, he will understand that you feel like you're being pulled in every direction! and let him know that you would like to spend some much needed time with your girl friends. you say that you only have like one day on the weekend, and you try to spend that with your boyfriend? how about spending the morning up until about four in the afternoon with him, and then going out to dinner and a movie with the girls that evening? it would do you some good. and like I said, if he really cares about you he'll understand.
I'm not saying that you have to do that every weekend, but it would give your friends and you the chance to catch up on what's been going on in your lives, and it would let your friends know that you're not blowing them off.
and when summer gets here, you need to take some serious time off from sports and everything, and give yourself a break! you deserve it! you honestly sound like an over achiever, and that has it's good points, but it has it's bad ones too!
Take care of yourself, and make some time for YOU!
2007-04-04 15:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the same way sometimes...
But you have to have that healthy balance of school, sports, hobbies, friends, family and boyfriend.
It's a highschool relationship so it will most likely end [not to put a damper on your day]. You're going to need somebody to cheer you up and if you blow off your friends, you won't have any friends when you need them.
Why not get your boyfriend and all your friends together to do something every other weekend at least? Make it a big group activity. Do something with a big group for a couple hours and spend the rest of the time with your boyfriend.
2007-04-04 14:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't have a strong male influental person in your childhood, you are experiencing exactly what i did when i filled the void with the first male in my life i put a lot of un-used emotion on. It will drain you of but also make you happy. The tuff part if deciding if the guy is worth all the energy & love and reciprocates it. If not u will end up so devastate as i did and have THE HARDEST time warming up to the next lucky guy who gets the damaged goods. Be careful because it will screw you up if you dont keep a healthy balance to your self worth & confidence levels.
~best wishes~ : )
2007-04-04 14:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little unfair to your friends. Try balancing your weekends out. One day for friends after sports and the next day for lover boy. Dont depend on your boyfriend its okay to leave the nest every once in a while for a girls night out...in fact its healthier for the relationship! Remember you are sooo young! Dont give up on life just yet and dont glue yourself to one guy!
2007-04-04 14:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong, u r just in the stage where u cant connect w/ anyone, but he happened to come, and u can connect w/ him. Knowing this situation, I think u should let u're friends know how much hard it is right now with the secdual, and That u really want some time w/ him. Just make sure u dont cut your friends out, or they will be leaving u. GL!
2007-04-04 14:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, you should not have boy friend when you are in High School because when you study you always think of that person because his your boy friend. If you don't think of that person, its great but because of your boy friend, you will probably loose lots of things from you. Just a one more thing is that if you graduate from high school and when you became about the age that you should marry, are you going to marry with your boy friend? if you are not, you should not have any boy friend. I think if you have boy or girl friend, both of them should like each other. And that is how they marry. If you really love that person, you should not broke up and I think you should marry with them. In my opinion, you shouldn't believe guys because if they found better girl, they would broke up and they will have girl friend with the other person. So if you think this is good idea, you should be broke with your boy friend or do what ever you want.
^_^ ㅡ,ㅡ ^_^
2007-04-04 14:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by mark y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin was the same way and i'll just say that i hope he's as great a guy as you think he is or you're gonna have a real crappy time. it's not wrong but you've set yourself up for some real heartbreak if anything should go wrong. maybe try forcing yourself to notice the little things that annoy you about him just to make him seem like a regular guy and not the guy you want him to be. not that you should hate him or anything but maybe just tone the love down a bit.
2007-04-04 14:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start hanging out in school with your friends. Like around classes, and that stuff. Even if you don't connect that much, you will soon start connecting if you hang out with them enough... But definately make friends. Break ups do happen in high school and you don't want to make it harder when it does happen
2007-04-04 14:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you do need a balance between your boyfriend and your friends. yes you are wrong a friend is not to be use when you need them in sorrow they need to share in your joy to. i would not wrap myself up with just sports and your boyfriend. spend time with your friends invite them to watch you practice make an effort or you wont have any body if you do have problem with your boyfriends
2007-04-04 14:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by claudia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what ur talking about.. matter of fact, i feel pretty much the same way! what i do is to have at least one day out of the week to spend with my friends and the rest for ur bf! friends means a lot since they are the ones that will always be there for u no matter what happens!
2007-04-04 14:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋