If a co-worker has a "murphy" should I let her know?

Question

or go about my biz? I dont know how she does not feel it, her butt is pretty much swallowing her pants! It's a horrible sight, to top it of her booty is flat as plywood. I noticed everyone else (especially the men) looking at it, and having a digusted look in their face.

she ALWAYS has a murph too.

I guess it's like a wedgie. Her work station is right across from my desk, so everytime she gets up I see it, I try to look down all the time. but I still see it from the corner of my eye. I dont make fun of her, I keep to myself. No one else makes fun of her, they just look at it and dont say nothing.

Answer 1

First, thank you for teaching me a new expression today.
(I'm French so I gobble them up)

I hate wearing thongs just because of that. Thongs are supposed to be sexy and are great if you want to avoid panty lines but those things are just supposed to get in your butt and I hate that feeling. How can anybody want something in there all day long is beyond me. Maybe the women wearing thongs are missing some nerve endings in there and maybe, no surely, your co-worker is one of them (I could not personally ignore such a discomfort).
Maybe she's wearing a thong to avoid any visible panty lines under her pants and maybe the pants are following the thong…
Maybe, maybe, what do I know? All I know is you need to deal with the situation. (Don't do it anonymously...it will just be received at something cowardly...)

As you said: it’s a horrible sight, men (and women, I guess) are disgusted and everybody is pretty much is denial because facing the situation would demand great courage.
You need to find that courage in yourself to help your co-worker and really help yourself and everybody else.
You need to find some time alone with her and tell her about your concern. Surely she has no idea of what is happening. Really, who wants to look horrible and disgust everybody? (unless she’s a rock star…lol).
Maybe you go to lunch with her in a nearby Mall or store and find a three way mirror to help you make your point.
It could be the start of a beautiful friendship...who knows?

What your co-worker needs to do is to wear underwear that would cover her whole behind but be tight enough to stretch tightly over the crack to prevent the pants from going in. She also needs to wear different pants, tighter, stretchier, heavier fabric…
She needs to get into a store with a friend (you could volunteer…) and try different styles on and walk a few yards to see how the pants react to her morphology.

Maybe pants are not for her and she needs to wear skirts instead like Helen Mirren who's very beautiful but never wear pants because she says: "I have a huge bottom".

What if it was you? What if you would bother people without being aware of it? Wouldn’t you want somebody to let you know? Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you…

Answer 2

To "Glen" above, READ THE QUESTION instead, you will see the answer already written.


Now, as to the original question, I would write on a piece of paper an anonymous note telling her what other's have noticed about her and suggest that she find more suitable undergarments or clothing. I would think that she would probably be a little upset at first, but better to have told someone instead of letting them make a an "a**" of themselves (excuse the pun).

Answer 3

Slip a note to her on her dsek annonymously and tell her what you notice. Phrase it nicely in way that says, we're not mocking you but want to help. She needs to find a proper undergarment - improper fit helps encourage the murphy!

Answer 4

ok. I think you're talking about a wedgie and a camel toe right?
Well, I would discreetly tell her, in a really nice way. If she gets all offended, at least you tried to do the right thing.
I mean, if it was you, and it was unintentional, you'd wanna know right?

Answer 5

Are you talking about a Murphy bed or do you mean everything goes to her crack. If that's the case, you probably shouldn't say anything. I'm surprised she doesn't feel it herself.

Answer 6

Woah, what is a murphy (from UK and never heard expression)? Is it like a wedgie?

Answer 7

I would leave a anonymous note on her desk telling her of the problem and that you thought she would like to know.

Answer 8

You need to tell her in a private and discreet way that she has a murphy and suggest ways to prevent it.

Answer 9

Am not sure what a "Murphy" is, but if you can say or do something that will help her or make her feel better you should be her friend and help her. ~

Answer 10

sounds wierd , you should tell her because its wrong to make fun of someone behind there backs