How do you win a girl that has a boyfriend?

Question

This is a girl I work with. That's basically the only time I see her and talk to her (when we happen to have a similar shift) and I think she's amazing.... Problem is she has a boyfriend. In most situations I would just let this girl slide and move on because the last thing I want to do is get in between a relationship. The thing is, she always fights with him and I know its him and not her who's causing problems. She deserves much better, but won't break it off him (why I don't know :S ). I instant msg her once in a while, but I don't want to come on too strong or fall into the friend zone. Any answers will be appreciated.

Answer 1

The problem with this is that if you actively try to 'steal' her from him and you succeed, you will always wonder if someone else might be able to steal her from you. That is, someone who is willing to cheat or dump a partner for someone else is probably someone who cannot be trusted. Therefore, the best thing to do is be sure to remain and behave as a FRIEND ONLY. Give her the same type of advice any TRUE friend would give, but never ever advice designed to manipulate her toward you. Then, if she decides on her own to ditch the guy, you can thereafter try to woo her. Just keep the two things separate.

Answer 2

Listen to anything she says about him in the negative, and make sure you don't do those things. If she says she hates that he's lazy, be hardworking. He doesn't return calls? You do. Pay attention to little details. What music does she like? Find similar interests and share them. You don't have to come on strong or 'break them up' because you will be more appealing and eventually he will mess up so bad she will move on. You really don't want a girl you could pull away from her man, because she'll do the same to you when someone else comes along.
Girls like to think they can 'fix' things. If somethings wrong I feel like if I try harder, or am nicer to him things will get better, but they don't. Some don't want to be alone or go through the mess of breaking up. Especially if they live together.

Answer 3

Ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend as much as possible. Make it clear that you like her and would like to date her.

The big difference vs. her being unattached is that you have to stay low-pressure, but otherwise anything is fair game -- compliments, cards, flowers (but remember that she can't take them home) -- the works.

The good ones are commonly attached. My first heart pitter-patter girlfriend, first long-term girlfriend, first live-in girlfriend, and wife -- those are four different people -- all were at least theoretically attached when I started dating them.

Answer 4

Ask her why she wants to stay with someone who treats her like that....that is the only way you will know the answer to that one.
And...regardless of how they get along, she is taken...you should look elsewhere for a girl who is free

Answer 5

You don't- you respect her and her current relationship. Good luck on becoming her friend, but you shouldn't try to break them up.

Answer 6

It isn't cool to sabotage a relationship so that you can date one of them.

If you assist her in ending her relationship, I would say that she is now off-limits to you to ask out.

Answer 7

when it comes to true love:
sum find it,sum lose it,sum abuse it,sum don't even know when its directly in front of them. i pray when it comes your way,you will recognize it and know how to treat it when its returned.

forget this verbally abusive boyfriend.

so you should say something before its too late dude.

Answer 8

you wait until they break up than move in like a tiger give her a little rooarr

Answer 9

Try talking to her about the issue and telling her about your feelings. I hope this helped...

Answer 10

YOU DON'T