Can long distance relationships work?

Question

I've been with this guy since my sophomore year and we are going to college in the fall. His dad is moving and his parents are divorced . He hates it here cuz it is a small town and he thinks if he doesn't leave he will never get a good job b/c there aren't many around here. I am very close to my whole family and it will be hard for me to leave and out of state tuition is too high. He is going to be 10 HOURS AWAY! We have always been so close and we did everything for the first time together. But it will be like that for FOUR YEARS and we have seen each other just about every day that we've been together. We have never thought we would break up because we get along so well and we love each other so much. He is afraid it won't work b/c we won't get to see each other and he tried to break up with me yesterday but he cried his eyes out because he said I was the best thing that ever happened to him and then we stayed together. Can you PLEASE give me some tips on how to make it work?

We have so much in common and we just FIT. It is very hard to find love like we have because it doesn't come around but once in a lifetime.

Answer 1

yes if you both are commited

Answer 2

Guess what? It can work. I started dating my boyfriend six months before I went off to college. I kind of promised myself I'd dump him before college because of the whole long distance thing. Well, I fell for him and we both decided we wanted to try a long distance relationship. We've been together since. I see him for a weekend every 1 to 2 months. We e-mail each other nearly every morning, and talk to each other on the phone for about an hour nearly every afternoon. Then we see each other, spend the weekend together, cry everytime we leave again. And go through it all over again. But the relationship is amazing. Distance really does make the heart grow fonder. If you're both committed, keep in contact, keep an honest and trusting relationship, and try to see each other when you can. If you both love each other, you'll be fine...I guarantee it.

Answer 3

I think if you truly love each other yall can make it work. Just be truth full with each other while yall are off at school and during the breaks yall spend all your time together. And while yall are off at school and yall happen to fall 4 some 1 else then you have think about who u want to really be with and follow your heart. If its meant 2 be then it will be if not then there is some 1 else out there 4 u. But don't give up i know what u are going threw be leave me. Hope that helps some : )

Answer 4

Maybe you both should invest in those video-camera things that attach to your computers. That way, the two of you can not only talk frequently, but see each other as well. It won't stop the lack of physical contact, but it might ease it some. Also, send each other handwritten letters. They're so much more personal than an email...like getting a part of the other person. Include little things, like a flower you found or a newspaper clipping...things to show you think of him all the time.

Answer 5

Long distance relationships usually only work when the people are going to be apart for a short period of time. 4 years is a long time. Also who knows if he is going to want to come back in 4 years. If he hates it there now, chances are that won't change. U need to decide how long you are willing to wait and sit down with him and figure out a time line so you know what you are up against.

Answer 6

Long distant relationships never work out! At first you will try to see each other as much as possible. However as time goes by you will start to drift apart. Its better to just end it and try to be friends. If he moves back or you move there then maybe you can pick back up. Talking everyday is not a substitute for seeing each other. Don't fool yourselves into thinking your relationship is different.

Answer 7

well,i've had my share on long distance relationships more than enough..

i've tried it so many times,at first u try everything for that relationship,so that u dont break up with the guy u love but after about half a year u see that it isn't going to work.....i don't want to dissapoint u but my experiences weren't really good...

but i suggest that u both try it,better to try and see it for yourselves than to break up and to live the rest of ur life with the thought: had it been different when u and ur boyfriend had tried to carry on the relationship...

and u said u loved each other,maybe it will work by u guys...

Answer 8

Sighs. It is sad to see someone on the road to certain heartbreak. There is a very high probability that this relationship will end...and much sooner than you even begin to expect. Just enjoy each other as best you can, forgive each other when one of you makes a mistake, and hold on as tight as you can. You might just be the one in a million that makes it.

Answer 9

I've been in a long-distance relationship for 4 yrs. We're in college. It's not easy, but it can be done. Communication is the most important thing. If you guys aren't on the same cell phone network, you should look into it. Trust, communication, commitment- those are the keys.

Answer 10

Don't even Think about it! They Never turn out to work its just that one day or the other 1 of you might doubt the other and from then on its just a roller coaster ride! Then even if the other person is not cheating the one who doubts might start to! It's sooo not the effort!

Answer 11

first of all you are very lucky to have someone love you like he does.

second, just stay in touch and if you truly love him and he loves you back [[which is obvious he does]] you will make things work. my friend is in a long distance relationship and it is working very good for her. since they spend so much time away it just makes spending time with him that much more special.

hope it works out!