so my best friend has been battling depression for a long time.....i was talking to her on msn and she said maybe it would just be better if she wasn't here and that she was worthless....now she's in Scotland where i used to live and i'm in america....i feel like i can't help her........she just signed off after she said she's wurthlesss.....what should i do??
2007-04-04 13:10:35 · 7 answers · asked by Gemma S 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Make her KNOW that she's worth living. Call her or contact her soon! You have to get her to believe in herself. Try to get her to think about the positive in her life. Now go! Contact her! Good luck! If you need more help, or if she'd like some help, go to my profile and e-mail me!
2007-04-04 13:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back immediately and let her know that there are many things she can do, as follows: because it's Scotland, in far Northern latitudes, she may be suffering from Seasonal Affective Disorder, so ask if it's worse in the winter time (provided she gets outside a fair bit). She should see a doctor, in case it is thyroid related, but if medication and therapy are provided, because they may take some time to be effective, practice for 15 - 20 mins daily, and when needed, the mindfulness breathing method at http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/, or gaze at a burning candle in a quiet, darkened room for 20 mins (morning, afternoon, and evening for best results). Tai Chi & yoga suit some (http://www.yogasite.com). Work up slowly to 30 - 60 mins of vigorous exercise daily, preferably in sunlight, with at least the face and hands exposed, eat healthily, and keep occupied. Take a vitamin B complex and 4 fish oil supplements, daily. If S.A.D. (above) is involved, vitamin D, and therapy involving exposure to bright light is recommended. See http://www.teen-depression.info/ & chat and groups at http://www.journeytowardsfreedom.com (.com/LinksFriends/) & http://www.onlinecounselling.co.uk/faq.htm (.co.uk.faq.htm) Also worth a look is http://www.coolnurse.com/self (.com/self_esteem3.htm) Keep a record of these, too.
2007-04-04 22:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This brings up bad memories for me.I had a girlfriend that moved away and did the same thing.Luckily she survived,but there was a period after that I was struggling with her.Do you have contact with any of her friends there?I'd say email/call them.If you have no contact,I don't think there's much you can do.Don't hang this on your heart like I did.It's no use to bring yourself down too.
Kelly k:Compliments aren't enough.These types need help.I've tried that route and it got me nowhere.You need to find out how,in your power,can you get them help.
2007-04-04 20:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get back in touch with her asap. She really needs someone to talk to. So talk, tell her that killing herself doesn't help anything. Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Depression can be treated, ALOT of people suffer and battle it. Try and help encourage her.
Good luck- my best advice though would be to pray for her.
2007-04-04 20:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by LG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she live with family or does she live alone? Do you have other friends in Scotland who live close by. Ask them to come over to her place to at least check up on her.
2007-04-04 20:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start complemeting her or make her sound like she is the most popular girl. Always be positive. And don't gossip about her. and always include her. and also find out why she thinks she is worthless
2007-04-04 20:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to her, but try not to bring up that subject. make her feel better. keep in constant contact with her to make sure she boesnt do anything rash.
2007-04-04 20:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋