So i was talking to this guy for about a week, he made me feel comfortable around him even though we barely knew each other. I came into his life while he was talking to another girl, he also told me he felt as if he was getting to know me better than her. So as the week passed he dropped her for me because she was really shy and never said anything to him. He told me that he wasn't going to give up on me because i wasn't her, and that i knew how to work things out. But then the next day he went to her and said that he still had feelings for her. But he had told me he doesn't have feelings for her anymore. Now i tripped out on him, and i'm ignoring him because i don't know what to say. He made me feel so low, but it's okay. I guess. So is it wrong to be ignoring him now ?
2007-04-04 12:40:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is what he said
"keshia, i know i fked up wit u, but i still want to be frends at least. look i didn't mean for things to to turn out this way. I'M SORRY i've said so many things to you without thinking twice, and i just wanna let you know that no matter what im still not gonna give up on you, just in a different way. i want to earn ur trust and frendship back. can we start over? and jus pretend none of this happened? when you said you were wrong about me, and that i was like all the other guys, it jus told me that i changed, and my whole life i didn't wanna be like other guys, and i know i'm not. i want to prove to you that i'm not. all im asking for is your forgiveness. I don't want to end our frendship in this stupid quarrell, remember what i said? no matter what happens we'll still be frends. and i'm gonna stick to my word. get back at me when you get this please?"
2007-04-04 12:55:36 · update #1
What he did was really messed up. It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I guess what i would do, is just not talk to him until he knows what he wants. I think he's confused with himself and possibly overwhelmed. So wait it out, dont be mean though, say hi only if he does, just common courtesy crap. You guys can still be friends but i would only be friends after he knows what hes doing with his life. Goodluck.
2007-04-04 12:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is no reason for you to feel low as you have done nothing wrong. Nor has rejected you and even if he did, he barely knows who you truly are so there would be no reason to take it personally.
You have a right to be angry with him for not being straight with you as to what he wants, but it could be and it sounds like it is because he really doesn't know himself.
Dating or liking someone for a week does not mean you have a commitment to that person exclusively...it is a getting to know period to see if you have the same interests, goals, and personalities click to see if you both want it to progress to a committed relationship.
It is up to you how you want to proceed from here; you are under no obligation to talk to him if you don't want to as he should have been honest with you about his feelings for her; you have the right to make an informed choice and you were denied that right.
If you want to see how a relationship might progress, you can talk to him and make it clear that he is to be straight with you about everything or it is a deal breaker and in the meantime, until he knows what he wants, you both should be free to see other people.
2007-04-04 19:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why would you want to be with him anymore. It's not really his fault or yours, you both sound pretty young and inexperienced. Chalk it up to a life lesson that sometimes guys don't tell you the truth,because they don't want to hurt your feelings.
you don't have to explain why you are ignoring him, pretty sure he can figure it out on his own. Just move onto someone new and a week is only 5 school days.
a week is only 5 days and there is 360 in a year, so it's not that long to really be so attached to. More guys will follow.
2007-04-04 19:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should ignore him permanently and focus on meeting new guys. He's already lying to you within a week of meeting you? That's a red flag that he's not interested in having a healthy relationship with you. It will just get worse if you continue seeing him. He's a player.
2007-04-04 19:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by SierraGirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... Well, maybe you should listen to what he says at least once. Let him tell you his side of the story, and if he's making excuses and being a jerk, just don't talk to him anymore. You don't need to take that kind of manipulation from a guy.
2007-04-04 19:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by swimmer2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You gave him a chance and he abused it. So why feel sorry for him when he's still seeing another girl and told you that he wasn't going to give up on you? I hope this helped...
2007-04-04 19:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Hinata 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did what was right. he thought he liked the girl but then you came and it changed his mind and he thought he like you but then he found out he liked her, but yeah keep on ignoring him!
2007-04-04 19:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by yumika411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋