Are times changing now to the point that a man is ok to hit a woman?

Question

I never really had much of a father growing up so I'm not sure what a man is really suppose to be. I know what a good man is though, i just got out of a serious relationship of about 2 1/2 years and he was a good guy but he has hit me and cheated on me a few times. We tried to work through it and people kept telling me you just have to forgive people because EVERY ONE makes mistakes but i need to hear different, please are there any guys out there that can tell me the truth about abuse and cheating on your g/f's that wouldnt do the same to you.

Answer 1

Yes, the truth is that once someone has gotten away with hurting you, he will continue to do it. Furthermore, abuse tends to escalate, so his attacks will get more severe over time. If you don't get away from him permanently, you are likely to get seriously hurt.

You should also know that men who hit women often increase their levels of violence enough to actually kill the woman. You should also know that once this cycle starts, it is VERY difficult to stop and law enforcement does little to help. So the best thing you can do is stay away from the guy now that you have finally gotten free of him.

Answer 2

If your ex hit you and cheated on you then he wasn't a good man. His behavior is based on old fashioned ways in which it was acceptable to do those things (but not of course for the woman to do). You have to understand that if the behavior becomes habitual it's no longer just a mistake the person is making but ongoing abuse. It would be a mistake to forgive a person for their actions if they simply continue the behaviors you are forgiving them for.

A good man would show respect to his woman and not hit her under any circumstances and would never cheat (at least habitually, once could be considered a mistake in this sex saturated society). I'll add that some women are now taking up these same behaviors because men have been getting away with it forever but this isn't any better just abuse coming from a female than a male.

Answer 3

You have tapped into a very important fact that is part of the problem with society today. You didn't have a father, so you don't know what to look for in a good man. A good man is NOT going to hit on you, and he will NOT cheat on you. You deserve so much better. I was raised in a traditional Christian home where I was taught NEVER to hit girls. Female friends of mine are always commenting on how much respect I have for women. Don't sell yourself short girl.

Answer 4

No. A hundred years ago it was acceptable (legally at least) for a man to hit a woman, but now it is a criminal offense. CRIMINAL. Good guys do not hit women. Period. Good guys in healthy relationships do not cheat. These go for women as well. Whoever is giving you advice either has been abused themselves and doesn't know any different, or they are not looking out for your best interest. There are millions of guys out there who might hit or cheat, but there are also millions who would never consider it. Hold out for a guy who cares as much about you as he does about himself. Good luck in your future relationships.

Answer 5

It is never okay for a man to hit a woman and if he cheated on you repeatedly then he wasn't a really good guy after all. If my guy hit me even once on purpose or cheated on me I would be out of that relationship in a heartbeat.

Answer 6

Times are changing actualy. But its not ok to hit a woman. never. and there is no right way to do it. same way with cheating. Hitting a woman is not a damn mistake man. some say it is, but they do it by choice, making it not a mistake. also the same thing with cheating. DO NOT TAKE ANY MORE S**T FROM THIS GUY. Dump his *ss.

Answer 7

Yes, she cheated and you are very lucky to have a wife who had enough respect for her marriage not to go further in a situation that could have gotten out of hand. Under the circumstances their are alot of women who also love their husbands but would have still taken the neighbor up on this opportunity to 'get back' at her cheating husband. The crushing of your heart is minor compared to the abuse that you have put your wife through. I dont think you know what love is. Love is the greatest thing in life. Walking in love should be our main focus in life. God is love and he wants us to love one another. If you believe that what happened to your neighbor is an act of god, what do you think your punishment will be for all the pain and hurt you put your wife thru? If i were you, I would start by accepting Jesus as your lord and savior, repent, and begin a new love walk. Always remember Love is action. it is revealed in the way we talk to people, how we treat them, and what we do or dont do for them. Love is patient. Love is not rude. Be hopeful that you will be able to 'mend' this relationship. Your wife is going to need some counseling and so will you. Get to the bottom of your infidelity issues and pray that after all is said and done that your wife will forgive you and not leave you.

Answer 8

yeah everyone makes mistakes, but when they make the same mistake more then once, then its no longer a mistake. I say leave him, not man is supposed to hit a women, even though some guys may think its okay now a days. Good luck girly.

Answer 9

A man should never hit a woman or cheat.

Answer 10

i suggest most strongly that you drop both the guy (he is not a man --- men do not ever hit) and the "friends" that suggest you forgive hitting --- with the cheating as well he does not care for you --- get out of it call the police and charge the mongrel --- find someone who really does care for you -- the difference will be unbelievable --- best wishes