My boyfriend gave me these rules should I listen ??

Question

I seem to find that i can talk to any boy besides my bf Branden like crap like I treat them wrong and hurt there feelins but when Im talkin with Branden I seem to listen and do whatever he says.
These are his rules:

1.im not allowed to talk to no other boys since he says talkin leads to kissin then kissin leads to sex [im still a virgin i dunno why he gave me this rule]

2.i can only call him once or twice a week

3.im not suppose to ask him too many questions

4.i cant raise my voice when talkin to him

5.im not suppose to answer other calls while on the phone with him

6.dont do anythin or else anythin i do he'll find out and then curse at me and make me cry or beat the **** outta me

7.dont ever hang up on him or say anything rude or thats the end of our relationship

We've been together for 10 months and he makes me cry alot but I follow every rule since I did him wrong in the past cause his cousin grabbed me and kissed me right infront of him.What should I do ??

There are many other rules but those are the 7 most important 1's. He also loves money and expects me to give him when he's treatin me so wrong.

Answer 1

This is the classic case of an abusive relationship. He is trying to control you and thinks of you as his property, not a person, and certainly not his partner. He views you as his property available for his sexual pleasure at any time, and please don't bother him with your needs, or even talking if you can help it.

Why would you stay in any relationship where the person makes you cry alot? If this was another girl you were friends with, you stay her friend. If this was a guy you knew but didn't date, you wouldn't spend any time with him.

He doesn't want you talking to other boys because they will treat you better.

He doesn't want you calling him more than once or twice a week because the other girls he is dating and having sex with might find out.

He doesn't want you to ask him too many questions because it will be difficult for him to remember all the lies he has told you and keep his story straight.

Don't raise your voice or talk to anyone else because he is a control freak.

Number six is just a threat to your physical safety.

Wake up now instead of wasting any more of your time with him. Dump this guy, get out of the relationship, get away from him, it is not healthy at all. No one who really cares for their girlfriend, wife, etc, treats them like this.

Answer 2

First of all any mature relationship doesnt have rules!! He obviously is insecure and im guessing ya'll are still maybe in high school or in your teens?? Im just asking because i was in the same situation. I was with my ex for 8 years. Ever since i was 14 years old!! Now im 23 and regret ALOT of the things i put up with. I was never allowed to go out with my friends, or go to any dances, nonetheless talk to any guys and i lost alot of friends and even some family over this! I was known as the girl who never took crap from anyone and respected and loved herself. when i met him i just was so brainwashed that i believed this was normal behavior. He always managed to make me feel like everything was my fault or he's doing this because i messed up so i have to take everything he did to me. Get out while you can. You dont deserve to be treated like this and if yall <--- (yes im from tx) have only been together for 10 months and you have all these rules imagine another 10 months with him. This is called abuse. Mental abuse and it is the same as physical abuse!!! It still hurts you either way. I found myself not liking the guys who were nice to me or would compliment me and having alot of trust issues. All because i was treated so badly this whole time that like i said i started believing it was normal and its not!!! Please let him go. Let someone else put up with him because im sure you are better than that!!!!

Answer 3

Get out of the relationship. Totally get out of it. If you're not making this up, he's an utter abuser.

Rule 1 alone is reason to get out.
Rule 6 alone is reason to get out and consider going to the police.
Rule 2 alone makes it a lousy relationship.
Rules 3, 4, 5, and 7 alone mean he's a jerk you should probably not be involved with.

GET OUT!!!!!!!