2007-04-04 12:12:55 · 79 answers · asked by Ms.Mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes using you for sex...
2007-04-04 12:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's using you for sex.
Do you ever get involved with something because you want/need something out of it, but don't really care for the rest?
Some people hate school, but they still go, because they want their diploma. So they go and do what it takes to get a diploma, and ignore everything else.
I go to work because I want to make money. I go, I get paid, I come home. I don't linger around. I have no interest in hanging out without getting something for myself.
Too bad for him. He's missing out. He's got a whole woman, and all he wants is the sex.
It is pretty stupid, isn't it? I mean, if he really doesn't like you outside of sex, he's treading on dangerous territory. He could end up fathering a child with someone he doesn't even like.
One of the questions begged from this though is why exactly are you having sex with him, knowing that he doesn't want you in other ways? Nobody says you have to have sex with the guy. Besides, he's going to get extremely lame when he loses interest in sex. Then he'll be with you only out of habit. He won't like anything about you.
2007-04-04 12:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's having sex with you- aren't you having sex with him as well? YOu must be enjoying it otherwise you wouldn't do it. Right? is this hurting you? Is he at least a kind person? Does he treat you with respect? It's true, men will take sex if you want to have sex, but it does take two. It sounds like you really care about this man. You need to really think about if you are in it for the sex or are you wanting something more? If you want a relationship with this man, you must tell him that. If it's not what he wants, then you need to move on. Do the right thing, and take care of yourself. A very wise person said once "If I am not for myself, who will be for me?"
2007-04-04 12:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of these people act like he is some terrible person and he is "just using you for sex."
That's just not true.
He is not using you for sex. You are using sex as bait to try to lure him (back) into a relationship and it's not working and you're wondering why.
He's not using you in any way. You are giving it up willingly.
You hope that by having sex with him that he will be attracted to you and (re)start a relationship that extends beyond sex.
Of course he will take the sex if you offer it. Most men would.
You should examine yourself and your motives. You should cut off the sex and work on your relationship skills so that you try to capture a man with your wit and charm and not with one of your body parts.
2007-04-07 07:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by itsme2033 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your letting him get away with that. Don't let him give you Booty calls if he doesn't want to be with you. You are better than that and can find someone better. Tell him if it's over then it's over. Or you both need to reconsider what really happened and why he always runs back for more. Honesty that's somewhat of a bad guy kind of compliment that he keeps coming back for more. But he won't let you move on by just leaving you alone. He's using you and insulting your intelligence by messing with your emotions.
2007-04-04 12:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah guys will never say no to sex. Sex is sex to them no matter the person. Anyway my best advice would be to stop giving it up and find a man that loves you and wants you sex or not?
Good Luck
2007-04-04 12:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by kindanswersplease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your allowing him to use you!
Is your self esteem that low? If you don't respect yourself enough to stop it, how do you expect him to respect you in return? Don't be bullied into it, your'll just feel even more empty afterwards, show him your not prepared to be treated like that and if the relationship survives he'll treat you better in the future, if not then it wasn't ment to be then at least you've salvaged some dignity out of the situation.
2007-04-04 12:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by CLAIRE P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants to have his cake and eat it too. The average man will do the same thing as long as you are giving it up with no complaints.
But you need to stand your ground and let him know you 're not with that unless you like that kind of relationship. And in that case go ahead and get your rocks off with no strings attached but it's what you really want not him.
2007-04-05 00:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by 2sexy 2cute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys like sex and think they can get anything they want. if you know he doesn't want you but you still allow him to have sex with you, then he knows he can get what he wants. STOP THE SEX.
2007-04-04 12:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by pulp 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because your easier than having to do the ground work of finding a new sex partner......you need to p him off and have some respect for yourself...dont be an easy lay!!!!!
2007-04-04 12:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not being a smart ***. I am speaking from experience. As long as I, I mean you, say yes he is going to go for it. You have to put your foot down or except it for what it is... SEX and nothing else.
Sorry I hope you don't take it personally I just recently had the same problem.
2007-04-04 12:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by a j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋